The people who say that, are the ones who married the wrong person.Why do some people say that getting married in your early 20s is too young?
got hitched at 24....8 yrs later we're still truckin'
So who's saying otherwise?
dont listen to them its up to you
Statistically, marriages are more likely to fail before the age of 25.
Also, in your 20s you are finally asserting your independence and grow and change as a person. You establish goals and desires that may not be compatable with those of your partner. If you get married young you may not fully know yourself or miss out on opportunities as you are constricted by your partner.
Maturity also plays a big role as well.
Life experience - you may not know what you really want at a young age as you have not dated enough or gained enough relationship experience.
cant argue with someone who is ignorant to nationwide statistics.
just wait for that person to become a statistic when they get to divorced.
People say that because you still have a lot of growing to do at that age and the two of you will likely grow apart.
But the thing about it is, we're ALWAYS growing! True, you are different at 25 than you were at 15, and different at 35 than you were at 25, but aren't you different at 55 than you were at 45 and so on? Yes. So when IS the right time?
Things that make you go hmmmm...
I think as long as you are mature enough and get married fro all the right reasons age doesn't really matter I was married at 20 and now 45 and still married 25 yrs later marriage is what 2 people make it.
I agree. Will you marry me?
I think some folks think people in their early 20s don't really know who they are yet, does that make sense? Like haven't established their careers or whatever. And some think it's dangerous/irresponsible to be in that kind of a partnership before they've really dug their own paths.
It really depends on IF you've done a good bit of dating BEFORE you get married period. I feel if you haven't, then get married too young, the chances of the marriage aren't going to last. You honestly do need to know if you do have the rite person or not, %26amp; you're not going to know unless you've had enuf dating experience prior to getting married. I can speak for myself, getting engaged at 17, then married 2 wks. after I turned 19. I didn't go w/anyone else but 1 person %26amp; I only dated him twice. I found we made a mistake 4 yrs. after getting married %26amp; 2 children later. And NO, I did not ';have'; to get married. I find that's the biggest mistake is to make sure you know you do have the rite one before making it ';permanent';. It's too easy to get marred, but a heck of a lot harder to get a divorce...best to you...:)
Young people in their 20s are not mature enough to always deal with the difficult issues that arise in a marriage. Their patience is also not fully developed. Also, a man and woman should both have dated others before choosing the special person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
Many couples in their 20s have children and then realize they did not have enough time together before the children came along. Being a family is expensive and requires all of your attention and love. This is not saying it could work out, its just better to wait. If you are in your 20s and asking this, its because you are not experienced at what it takes to make it work.
Do you read any of these postings???????? Do you???
All most all of the people who are cheaters, lie to their partners and have unwed babies due to irresponsible sex are uncertain about what they want to do with their lives (still in college, living at home) are in their 20's. Women are fickle in their 20's, men have extremely high libidos and can't be trusted in their 20's. The best time to marry is in your 30's or 40's. Careers are in place, college is out of the way. Wisdom is more in place.
Worked for me.
For the same reason Car Insurance companies knew when people matured long before anyone else did, based on who was having the most accidents. Most people do not adequately mature until around 25. It doesn't happen on your birthday, but in that neighborhood, a person's brain does something that is also beneficial for such things as marriage.
Any one really younger than that is only flying by the seat of their pants, full of righteous indignation, and steeped on high ideals. That's all great, and many can make that fly for a long time, but it doesn't get most marriages though the dark cold nights of bitter anger and sheer loathing of a cheating partner, or maybe even a financially irresponsible partner piling debt on faster than the country, maybe even a addictive/abusive personality and I am not even talking about hidden personality defects or mental issues covered in one's youth that is seen as something playful or merely colorful at earlier eager ages.
Actually the statistics point to an older more educated couple making, more than any other couple top to bottom. Not rich, not poor, not middle class people, but generally older and worldly. People who actually know why they are doing it, and not doing it for reasons that 'Just feel right.' They have logical reasoning, and have been around the block with many relationships, thin and thick to know precisely how to handle all situations, particularly the ones that seem insurpassable.
All this stuff about having to have dated more people, have a set career path, blah blah blah is nothing but a bunch of crap. I met my husband when he was 17 and I was 19. We've been together ever since. We got married when he was 22 and I had just turned 25. We only waited that long b/c his family kept going on about how young we were (mine didn't....my family all get married,and STAY married, in their late teens and early twenties) Honestly I look at it this way...you know what you want. If you find who you want to be with then why do you need to keep looking/dating? And the careers you can and will work on throughout your life so why not have the person that you love by your side? I just don't get why you have to be alone/playing the field while you work on yourself. That's just ridiculous. And if everyone waited for everything in life to be just perfect circumstances then no one would ever get married or have kids b/c let's face it...timing is never ';perfect';....It's usually just pretty damn good.
On a side note, looking at my friends who waited to get married vs those of us that just went ahead and got married, the younger ones are staying married and the older ones are drowning their sorrows at their bars waiting on the divorces to be final. (That is almost w/out exception too)
Its the characteristic of the each person in the relationship. It's not the age that determines the marriage but rather the choices you make and your partner. Know matter what age you are when you marry it's work to keep it together.
it is too young...
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