What is the big fuss about getting married?

Honest to God, I just dont get it. And Im a girl!! I never fantasized about my dream wedding with bows and ribbons and what colors and all that BS. Its nothing. Im in a LTR with a guy Im madly in love with and live with, and I cant imagine that a little piece of paper would change that whatsoever.





So, please...what the hell is the deal?What is the big fuss about getting married?
well there is the practical stance that involves kids and such, blah blah blah. whatever. then there is the taxes part. But really i never got it much either. I understand commitment. and the ceremony for some people is supposed to announce you to the world.What is the big fuss about getting married?
I don't know about the wedding... but I can explain the marriage part.





It is like renting a house and owning one. When I was renting, it was a place, a nice place, but just a place. But when I bought a house, it became a home, I tended the yard, I painted, I cared how it looked to others...





Or maybe this example. When you hold someone else's baby, it is cute, but when it starts to fuss or cry, you are glad to be able to quickly give it back. But when it is YOUR baby, the crying makes you want to nurture, to feed, to love.





When living together, the love is real, and the care is there, but it is easy to walk away, you are not saving money together for retirement, you are not planning how you will raise your family. That little piece of paper is a serious binding that connects you for life, and you know it!
There are a couple of different ways to look at it.





1. Depending on your religious and/or moral views, marriage is the only way through God's eyes for a man and woman to have an acceptable physical relationship. It also shows God your unconditional love for that person.





2. You show to your significant other how serious you. You are going to be there through thick and thin, work through everthing together. You love this person so much, you take the ultimate step to show your love.





The sad thing is the divorce rate these days. People actual don't mean what they say at the altar. I believe marriage isn't for everyone, but then again my beliefs also say that if you aren't married and you are in a physical relationship you a sinning.
Putting things on paper tend to solidify and formalize important matters.Marriage is important.





A marriage ceremony isn't a marriage, it's an event.





Marriage has worked for centuries. It's worked very well. It works well in loads of societies outside the Western World.





Pop culture, feel good societal acceptance and live for today thinking is what clouds your view.
Marriage is important to some people. You'll probably never understand their reasons unless you feel the same way. Just enjoy your great relationship and screw marriage if that's not what you want, more power to you. I on the other hand, do want marriage. I don't know why. Maybe it was programed into me when i was young. But i want someone to be able to call me their wife, and them my husband. It just means a lot to me to be united that way. It is just a paper, but it means so much more spiritually =)
A lot of people see it as a true commitment, and think it will make their relationship more solid and show each other that they are truly the only one for them. I think if there weren't so many divorces going on, people would take it a lot more seriously, but this day and age are just too conceited and self-centered and don't take it as such a serious commitment because all it takes is a trip to the lawyers office and you get to be single again. To me, I think of it as my first description; a true commitment that will make a relationship more solid and to show one another that you really care. But everyone has their own beliefs, so if you are happy and getting along and that's what works for you, then keep it going. :)
well from a spiritual standpoint, it's a conventent between two people who are making a promise to God. But it seems in today's day and age marriage has lost all importance and significance. I feel the same way as you...i never fantasized about any of that stuff either. We're the type of girls who will make great wives because we don't do it for the pomp and circumstance and show.
normally its supposed to be every girls dream and its a huge deal.


We just eloped on a military base 2 years ago. we said screw a wedding bc our family is so big and we are poor anyway. we cant afford it. Plus its just a huge streesing mess for what like 4 hours? why spend thousands of dollars for 1 night that may not even last? Its crazy. I agree with you.
I wish we had a good word to describe the person we're in a committed relationship to without specifying marriage.


Example, Sue is married, Jane has been with her BF for 5 years.


Sue and Jane are going to the store and then meeting up with their [husband and boyfriend]s.
Some people do blow it up into a huge thing because is it a big deal for them. And you're right, a piece of paper isn't going to change your relationship. For most people, it's important to the eachother to make such a commitment.
Getting married is good but wasting too much money on it is not a good idea. I got married and we decided to have a really small wedding. We're still happy about what we did.
well america's marraige rate is declining and so are our morals...if u were christian...love=marriage...also a fact, we americans have the highest divorce rate...personally im old school...when or if i find the one, im gonna want to marry her...its the most beautiful institution god gave us...well one of them anyways...i suggest marriage but u do what u feel is best...good luck!
what the hell is the deal
i dont know for women, but here are the reasons for men:


boss doesnt think ur gay


collegues and peers assume at least someone can stand the sob


women around think either his penis still works or hes got money