Our friends are getting married on our 8th wedding anniversary, what to do?

A good friend of my husband's and mine will be getting married on our 8th Anniversary, which happens to be out of town. I wanted to do something or go somewhere special to celebrate our 8th anniversary, but my husband seems to want to go to this wedding which will be a whole weekend event. He even commented that we can make a vacation out of this wedding.





Am I being too selfish to not want to go and to just spend our anniversary celebrating by ourselves, maybe somewhere else? Has any one gone to a wedding that fell on your anniversary? What would be the right thing to do?Our friends are getting married on our 8th wedding anniversary, what to do?
Go to your 'close friends' wedding and have a good time. Don't be a party pooper just because its on your anniversary. Our friends are getting married on our 8th wedding anniversary, what to do?
I think going to the wedding on your anniversary is still a good idea BUT make something special out of it. After the wedding, go with the idea of making it a mini vacay for you and your hubby. The wedding may spark some new romance for the both of you especially if it's reminiscent of yours. Don't make a big deal out of it; make it fun and exciting!
Why not celebrate as your husband suggests for this anniversary? 8 years is an accomplishment, but it is not a ';milestone'; year. Therefore, I think you are being a little selfish by not wanting to go to a GOOD FRIEND's wedding. Weddings are fun, and it's pretty cool to think you will be sharing an anniversary with friends. Maybe later on you could take joint anniversary trips. Look at all the positives this brings. Besides, now there will be 2 men instead of one remembering the date. That way, if one forgets, the other can remind him. Its win-win!
What you should do is support this wedding. Go to the wedding with your husband. This after all is you guys friend in a special day. You guys should be there.....BUT


This should not be in any way your celebration for your anniversary, you are not selfish about this part. You have been married eight darn years to him and he needs to do something special with you aside from going around someone elses wedding. Even if it's not going to be on the exact anniversary date ahh well, plan out for the next weekend or weekend before. Happy anniversary by the way!
The right thing to do would be to go to their wedding and celebrate yours while you are away for the weekend. Do not stay home because it is your day, that just sounds petty and selfish. You would not want to miss the wedding of your good friends would you? You really can do both. You are not going to have to spend every waking moment with the couple and at their wedding. Don't miss out.
If you're good friends with this couple then yes you are being selfish. There's no reason that the two of you can't enjoy your time together while out of town for this wedding. Hell, you could take an extra day or two off and go early and do dinner and other things. You're going to have plenty of anniversaries, but do you really want to miss out on a friend's one wedding?
I would say celebrate your anniversary. He/she knew that was your anniversary and it wasn't very nice to plan an entire weekend around their wedding, especially knowing it was your anniversary. Just talk to your husband and let him know that you had other plans for your anniversary, then make sure and send them a nice gift.
You are going to have many anniversaries. An 8th isn't that big a deal, make plans for the 10th. I agree with your husband, go have a good time and make a party out of it for yourselves.





At least your anniversary doesn't fall on the annual ';all guys camping trip'; like mine does. We never spend it together and he had such a hard time getting his family and friends to shut up about us getting married on that day - July 4. You live with what you get when you love someone and this isn't such a big deal.
Well if it's a ';good'; friend of both of yours I don't understand why you wouldn't want to go. It's not like when you got married you got the rights to that day! Go and be happy for your friends. See if you can plan a special dinner or outing with just the two of you to celebrate your anniversary.
yes to selfish because you can make anywhere you and your husband go on your anniversary a special place get a nice hotel beautiful view romantic nights you dont have to spend every minute of the weekend with the wedding party do your own thing until the wedding day come on and your husband wants to go you are spoiling the moment
ARE YOU KIDDING?





SELFISH!





An 8th anniversary is just the 8th... there will be the 10th, 20th, 30th, 40th.... God willing. Now those are are a little more important, but still, you can move your anniversary celebration for any day, they can't just move their wedding day... that's only one day in their lifetime and you get plenty anniversaries.
You aren't being selfish but you could use it as an opportune moment to have time with just the two of you. I would make arrangements to stay at the nicest hotel available and do what my wife and I did 8 years ago when we got married. Happy Anniversary and I hope things workout.
Geez..........You HAD your big day and probably wanted EVERYONE there....I am not trying to downplay it, but don't you think you are being SILLY?





Its just an ANNIVERSARY. You will have MORE God willing.





Go to the wedding and stop being jealous...you are just upset that it won't be YOUR DAY and no one will be fawning over Oh-so-wonderful YOU.






I think you should go to the wedding. Since it is out of town, stay at a nice hotel or bread and breakfast and celebrate your anniversary there. You can take Monday off and spend all day Sunday and Sunday night celebrating your 8th anniversary.
Yes, you're being selfish. They are only going to have one wedding day, you will have other anniversaries. Its not even a milestone anniversary..get over it and go to the wedding.
why would a wedding be a whole weekend event? - usually if anything goes on the following day, it's only close family who get together at the parents house or something
Just go to the ceremony and then spend the rest of the time celebrating your anniversary.
Go to the wedding and celebrate with your friends. Maybe they will have as many years as you and your husband.
This couple will only have one wedding day. You have had seven anniversaries and will hopefully have many more.
Go to their wedding....I know anniversaries are special but why not do something really big on ur 10th...two years to go!! You wanted a special day...you got it on ur wedding day...help someone else have that feeling
wow.. Yes very selfish..terrible!
I just answered this...
I am also one who likes to celebrate anniversaries with a romantic getaway for two. But, if your husband really wants to go to the wedding, it would be selfish to insist that he miss it. You can make a vacation out of the trip. Just because the wedding is a weekend long affair doesn't mean you have to go to every single event. Go to the main party and the wedding and spend the rest of the time with your hubby or you could take an extra day or two and do something for just the two of you. It might even be special seeing your friends take their vows on the day that you two took yours. It might rekindle some of the feelings of your own special day.
Yes, its a bit selfish. You say that they are good friends, how could you not go? A vacation/anniversary/wedding sounds like a great idea. Don't make a big deal out of this and ruin your friends wedding. Have a nice dinner alone the night before you leave town, or the following weekend. Make the most of it. I'm sure this won't be the last anniversary you will be with them .. Maybe the four of you can celebrate your combined anniversaries in the future. The night before my 10th anniversary we got a call from an out of state friend of my husbands (not my favorite person). The friend said he was flying into our area the next day (our 10th) for business and asked if he could stay with us for a week. My husband said sure. It changed our plans, but it wasn't the end of the world. It wont be the end for you either.