Do you think Thomas Edison sat around saying ';this stupid thing won't light. I'm out of here. Closing up shop. Thinking of going into the horse and carriage business instead.';
No. He did not. He did not give up. He had no proof that a light bulb was even possible, yet he had a vision and he persisted.
And today, now we have light bulbs.What is more difficult, staying married or inventing a light bulb?
when Im looking at ur Avatar...Im thinking about inventing the ligh bulbs.. LOL..kidding
I think you should give a try for business idea..
Im very happy I made my decision.. right now Im doing well with my business..What is more difficult, staying married or inventing a light bulb?
Actually, it was more like ';This thing doesn't work, I'm doing something else'; and while doing something else he figured out a way to make the light bulb that he had envisioned.
You see, he found 192 ways to not make a light bulb. Check out the things he made in the meantime.
Inventing a light bulb would be much harder because it has already been invented, therefore you would need to find a new way to do it that has not already been done.
it is harder to invent a lightbulb.
all you need to be married is love,patience,trust,time and fun together.
and faithfullness and unselfishness.
shouldnt you have those qualities anyways to be a man?
waiting for rescue! forgot to mention sex. Hence her marriage wont last, just another mark in the ';marriage is harder'; category.
stay in a relationship
Look at how many people going through break up
Or the average partners they have before they stay in a relationship ever after
I thought Thomas Edison invented the telephone.... woops ..
Staying married.
Lights dont last forever neither
marriage
but now we have fluorescents, LEDs, HIDs, etc etc.
bulbs are so yesterday.
haha, i'd say marriage is the hardest thing anyone can do. At least, that's my opinion.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Can a sole proprietor file married jointly?
I am a newbie sole proprietor and would like to file jointly with my husband. He also had some independent contractor activities other than my business in last year. In addition I didn't earn any income in last year only invested in business. The husband is helping me a lot in my business. I'm wondering if it's be a better choice to change for partnership and filing jointly if the sole proprietorship does not allow it...
Any thoughts?
Thank you!Can a sole proprietor file married jointly?
You can and should file jointly, the business situation has no bearing on how you file your personal taxes. You would filing out schedule C, which will show income made from business activity, and all of your expenses for operating your business. If there is a profit in excess of $400, there will be 15.4% self employment tax.
You will find a lot of useful info here
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/i1040sc.p鈥?/a>Can a sole proprietor file married jointly?
';Sole proprietorship'; refers to the way your business is organized. That doesn't restrict the filing status you choose for your personal income tax return - you can file a joint return or as ';married filing separately.';mineral foundation
Any thoughts?
Thank you!Can a sole proprietor file married jointly?
You can and should file jointly, the business situation has no bearing on how you file your personal taxes. You would filing out schedule C, which will show income made from business activity, and all of your expenses for operating your business. If there is a profit in excess of $400, there will be 15.4% self employment tax.
You will find a lot of useful info here
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/i1040sc.p鈥?/a>Can a sole proprietor file married jointly?
';Sole proprietorship'; refers to the way your business is organized. That doesn't restrict the filing status you choose for your personal income tax return - you can file a joint return or as ';married filing separately.';
How old does a female in Ohio have to be to get married?
Without her parents permission, and without being pregnant.How old does a female in Ohio have to be to get married?
In the state of Ohio you have to be 18 years old to get married without parental consent. However, if your parents do consent you can get married as early as 16. Before you make any decision either way sit down with your family and your significant other and talk it out. Marriage is a lot different in reality than it is in supposition. What ever you do finally decide good luck.How old does a female in Ohio have to be to get married?
I think it's 18 without parental consent in every state. I got married at 17 and had my parents consent.
18. But if you have your parents permission or are pregnant, as I'm sure you know you can do it sooner. thats pretty much how it is in every state.
i wouldn't reccomend marriage until at least 21 years old! The law states that you have to be at least 18 without consent, thats TOO YOUNG though! You don't want to get divorced at 30, do you?!
18. If you go to Virginia, you can get it at 16. Worth the drive?
if you have to ask that question that means you're under 18 which means you're tooooooo young!!!! enjoy your youth and relationship as it is and wait to get married until you're at least in your 20s
I live in Ohio so I whould know. It is 16 with parent permission, but 18 without.
Every state you have to be 18 to get married without parental permission.
In the state of Ohio you have to be 18 years old to get married without parental consent. However, if your parents do consent you can get married as early as 16. Before you make any decision either way sit down with your family and your significant other and talk it out. Marriage is a lot different in reality than it is in supposition. What ever you do finally decide good luck.How old does a female in Ohio have to be to get married?
I think it's 18 without parental consent in every state. I got married at 17 and had my parents consent.
18. But if you have your parents permission or are pregnant, as I'm sure you know you can do it sooner. thats pretty much how it is in every state.
i wouldn't reccomend marriage until at least 21 years old! The law states that you have to be at least 18 without consent, thats TOO YOUNG though! You don't want to get divorced at 30, do you?!
18. If you go to Virginia, you can get it at 16. Worth the drive?
if you have to ask that question that means you're under 18 which means you're tooooooo young!!!! enjoy your youth and relationship as it is and wait to get married until you're at least in your 20s
I live in Ohio so I whould know. It is 16 with parent permission, but 18 without.
Every state you have to be 18 to get married without parental permission.
What happens when a man with B+ is coupled with woman with O-blood group are married?Tell me about their KIDS.
Blood group related problems.It is to find out what happens when a spouse or pair is having just opposite Rh group.what is the effect on the baby born?Is baby as good as if for the people with same Rh group.What are the disease to be countered?What are the remedies for it?Any medical sciences solution to be dealt with this problem?Any website related to this subject that gives a comprehensive detail?What happens when a man with B+ is coupled with woman with O-blood group are married?Tell me about their KIDS.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_n鈥?/a>
http://www.marchofdimes.com/professional鈥?/a>
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/4/1鈥?/a>
IF you're not a Jehovah's Witness or opposed to using blood-based medicines for other reasons, the RhoGAM (or Anti-D) shot is your simple answer for prevention.
The complex answer involves a bit more information, care and planning to avoid all opportunites for the unborn baby's blood to mix with the mother's blood. More info on that in the book ';Anti-D in Midwifery: Panacea or Paradox'; by Sara Wickham.
http://www.contemporarynurse.com/10.1/10鈥?/a>
Research, research, research!What happens when a man with B+ is coupled with woman with O-blood group are married?Tell me about their KIDS.
You don't understand about RH type...There is no danger is having a child with someone of another blood type or RH type...if the woman is RH negative, during her pregnancy the doctor will give what is called Rhogam which is a medicine that is given around the 28th week of pregnancy. What this does is for the next pregnancy if the baby is RH neg there will be no problem with the baby when it is born. There are genetic problems that parents may find after the baby is born or are aware of before you talk about children. If you have concerns about this then talk with your OB doctor about this. The RH factor is easily taken care of.
:) NO idea what you're talking about. Good luck though!
http://www.expectantmothersguide.com/lib鈥?/a>
I hope this helps!!
I don't know about Rh groups or anything, so this may not be helpful. But I am O+ and my husband is O-. My daughter ended up O- like my husband.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_n鈥?/a>
http://www.marchofdimes.com/professional鈥?/a>
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/4/1鈥?/a>
IF you're not a Jehovah's Witness or opposed to using blood-based medicines for other reasons, the RhoGAM (or Anti-D) shot is your simple answer for prevention.
The complex answer involves a bit more information, care and planning to avoid all opportunites for the unborn baby's blood to mix with the mother's blood. More info on that in the book ';Anti-D in Midwifery: Panacea or Paradox'; by Sara Wickham.
http://www.contemporarynurse.com/10.1/10鈥?/a>
Research, research, research!What happens when a man with B+ is coupled with woman with O-blood group are married?Tell me about their KIDS.
You don't understand about RH type...There is no danger is having a child with someone of another blood type or RH type...if the woman is RH negative, during her pregnancy the doctor will give what is called Rhogam which is a medicine that is given around the 28th week of pregnancy. What this does is for the next pregnancy if the baby is RH neg there will be no problem with the baby when it is born. There are genetic problems that parents may find after the baby is born or are aware of before you talk about children. If you have concerns about this then talk with your OB doctor about this. The RH factor is easily taken care of.
:) NO idea what you're talking about. Good luck though!
http://www.expectantmothersguide.com/lib鈥?/a>
I hope this helps!!
I don't know about Rh groups or anything, so this may not be helpful. But I am O+ and my husband is O-. My daughter ended up O- like my husband.
If married filing joint can they take all of out refund due to my husband owing student loans?
He has student loans in default and we claimed our daughter as a dependent..can they take the whole refund for the loans or do they have to give me some of the refund?If married filing joint can they take all of out refund due to my husband owing student loans?
Yes, IRS will offset joint refund.
You can file Form 8379 (Injured Spouse) with your joint tax return. The IRS will allocate the refund between you and your spouse. But by filing Form 8379, your refund will be delayed by about 2 months.
You can file as married filing jointly (MFJ) or married filing separately. In most cases, it is better to file as MFJ. Read http://taxipay.blogspot.com/2008/02/fili鈥?/a>If married filing joint can they take all of out refund due to my husband owing student loans?
Attach Form 8379 to preserve your share of any refund.
first find out if his social security has been flagged for tax refund offset by calling (fms) at 1-800-304-3107 and if so you all need to file a injured spouse claim form with you'll return (which takes 11-14 weeks to process)or if you'll filed already you'll need to mail the form to the irs alone without the w-2's since the return has already been sent and that takes about 8 weeks to be processed when sent by itself,but your portion will not be offset for his debt and be sure to include your daughter as your exemption.
Yes, IRS will offset joint refund.
You can file Form 8379 (Injured Spouse) with your joint tax return. The IRS will allocate the refund between you and your spouse. But by filing Form 8379, your refund will be delayed by about 2 months.
You can file as married filing jointly (MFJ) or married filing separately. In most cases, it is better to file as MFJ. Read http://taxipay.blogspot.com/2008/02/fili鈥?/a>If married filing joint can they take all of out refund due to my husband owing student loans?
Attach Form 8379 to preserve your share of any refund.
first find out if his social security has been flagged for tax refund offset by calling (fms) at 1-800-304-3107 and if so you all need to file a injured spouse claim form with you'll return (which takes 11-14 weeks to process)or if you'll filed already you'll need to mail the form to the irs alone without the w-2's since the return has already been sent and that takes about 8 weeks to be processed when sent by itself,but your portion will not be offset for his debt and be sure to include your daughter as your exemption.
What Age Do You Think People Should Get Married?
And I don't want to hear ';It's different for everyone,'; or ';Whenever they're ready.'; If you HAD to pick the lowest age acceptable for marriage, what would it be?What Age Do You Think People Should Get Married?
If u ask me the LOWEST then it would be 20.What Age Do You Think People Should Get Married?
girls 21 to 33,
guys when they become millionaires.
Probably 25. At that age, people are usually settled with school or have a stable job in order to support their family.
25..IMO.
Err, I think it's fine at 18.
18
24
25
20
Just marry me Baby, age is just a number.
24.
If u ask me the LOWEST then it would be 20.What Age Do You Think People Should Get Married?
girls 21 to 33,
guys when they become millionaires.
Probably 25. At that age, people are usually settled with school or have a stable job in order to support their family.
25..IMO.
Err, I think it's fine at 18.
18
24
25
20
Just marry me Baby, age is just a number.
24.
Is it better to file your taxes as married or single?
we each make about 45000 a year. so together about 90000. We have a house... No dependents
so married or single.
Which would give us the most money backIs it better to file your taxes as married or single?
If you are married then you have two choices. Married Filing Jointly is the best option. Married Filing Separately is the least desirable status to use. Try it both ways and you will see for yourself.Is it better to file your taxes as married or single?
It's almost always better to file a joint return. In your case the difference would probably only be a few dollars. For lower income people, especially if their income isn't close to each other, it would probably be more.
Since you are married you can NOT file as Single. Your only choices are Married Filing Jointly and Married Filing Separately.
Normally you'll pay the least tax by filing jointly though if your incomes are similar and you don't itemize and don't qualify for any credits it may not matter much if at all. The best way to be sure is to figure your taxes both ways and file whichever way works out best for you.
I would do as married
Married because wouldn't you get a tax break for that. So I'm just guessing here my husband and I file married but have two dependents.
Go online and do a mock return to see what nets you the most of a refund. You can find a refund calculator at H%26amp;R Blocks website.
Sounds like you would have a fairly simple return. I suggest you try both ';married filing jointly'; and ';married filing separately'; using the FREE software from taxact and use whichever produces the lowest tax.
so married or single.
Which would give us the most money backIs it better to file your taxes as married or single?
If you are married then you have two choices. Married Filing Jointly is the best option. Married Filing Separately is the least desirable status to use. Try it both ways and you will see for yourself.Is it better to file your taxes as married or single?
It's almost always better to file a joint return. In your case the difference would probably only be a few dollars. For lower income people, especially if their income isn't close to each other, it would probably be more.
Since you are married you can NOT file as Single. Your only choices are Married Filing Jointly and Married Filing Separately.
Normally you'll pay the least tax by filing jointly though if your incomes are similar and you don't itemize and don't qualify for any credits it may not matter much if at all. The best way to be sure is to figure your taxes both ways and file whichever way works out best for you.
I would do as married
Married because wouldn't you get a tax break for that. So I'm just guessing here my husband and I file married but have two dependents.
Go online and do a mock return to see what nets you the most of a refund. You can find a refund calculator at H%26amp;R Blocks website.
Sounds like you would have a fairly simple return. I suggest you try both ';married filing jointly'; and ';married filing separately'; using the FREE software from taxact and use whichever produces the lowest tax.
Is it a wise idea when you get married to get the same bank account as your spouse?
When you get married, would you rather have a joint bank account account with your husband or just keep or you own bank account and don't merge accounts? Keep in mind of being a stay at home mom after years of working at a good job, and divorce?Is it a wise idea when you get married to get the same bank account as your spouse?
I am happily married and do not comingle with my husband. We have separate bank accts, credit cards, etc. The only thing with both our names is the mortgage which he pays and I pay for all other household bills. We each pay our own credit cards (one each) and it works out great.
If I want to go out and buy 18 pairs of shoes, as long as the other bills are paid - he can't say a word! Not that I would ever buy 18 pairs of shoes ;) just an example!
By remaining separate - we never and I repeat never fight about money. This is a huge reason why most marriages fail like the other answers say.
I think the decision to comingle and have joint accoutns is one that has to be made on a case by case basis. Should you feel like you want to remain independent with your money than go ahead.
Just come up with a plan/budget on how to tackle the monthly household expenses.
Good LuckIs it a wise idea when you get married to get the same bank account as your spouse?
It is a wise idea to have a combined bank account, not to merge both of your accounts together. Finances could get a good marriage to a divorce if the couple do not speak the same language. So it is good to have an account for everything for the household, and separate accounts for personal stuff.
I believe have a joint account .Also in case the marriage fail have a secret saving account.
1 joint account to pay bills. Keep your 'She Money' in high interest bearing savings account.
Are you a working stay at home mom (home biz) or is he the primary bread winner? If you don't currently have an income, you may not be able to contribute to the joint account but our names should both be on it as perhaps you are the one who pays the bills.
You BOTH need a retirement savings account together too. You should manage it wisely - studying the market - speaking with your financial advisor etc
Read the Automatic Millionaire by David Bach in our spare time.
E-mail me if you need a legitimate home business.
I would have 1 joint account and 1 savings account only in my name. That way if things don't turn out right, I would still have my own money
I am no expert, but the best option may be to have a house account for regular monthly expenses (mortgage or rent, utilities, etc.), then decide if each party wants to have a separate or joint account for incidentals. Although, 2 people running around with separate debit cards for the same account sounds like an overdraft waiting to happen.
It is easy enough in this electronic age to do a split direct deposit of your paycheck, with a fixed amount to the house account, and any remainder to another account.
If you DON'T merge all your finances with your spouse, your marriage will fail.
Despite what people generally believe, more marriages fail because of financial problems than because of infidelity; be open %26amp; honest in all your money-dealings with your spouse, and happiness will follow!
And mjgreele is mistaken....by LAW, half of what is in her ';hidden'; accounts belongs to her husband. In the event of a divorce, she could go to jail on a fraud charge if she tried to withhold half that money from her husband!mineral foundation
I am happily married and do not comingle with my husband. We have separate bank accts, credit cards, etc. The only thing with both our names is the mortgage which he pays and I pay for all other household bills. We each pay our own credit cards (one each) and it works out great.
If I want to go out and buy 18 pairs of shoes, as long as the other bills are paid - he can't say a word! Not that I would ever buy 18 pairs of shoes ;) just an example!
By remaining separate - we never and I repeat never fight about money. This is a huge reason why most marriages fail like the other answers say.
I think the decision to comingle and have joint accoutns is one that has to be made on a case by case basis. Should you feel like you want to remain independent with your money than go ahead.
Just come up with a plan/budget on how to tackle the monthly household expenses.
Good LuckIs it a wise idea when you get married to get the same bank account as your spouse?
It is a wise idea to have a combined bank account, not to merge both of your accounts together. Finances could get a good marriage to a divorce if the couple do not speak the same language. So it is good to have an account for everything for the household, and separate accounts for personal stuff.
I believe have a joint account .Also in case the marriage fail have a secret saving account.
1 joint account to pay bills. Keep your 'She Money' in high interest bearing savings account.
Are you a working stay at home mom (home biz) or is he the primary bread winner? If you don't currently have an income, you may not be able to contribute to the joint account but our names should both be on it as perhaps you are the one who pays the bills.
You BOTH need a retirement savings account together too. You should manage it wisely - studying the market - speaking with your financial advisor etc
Read the Automatic Millionaire by David Bach in our spare time.
E-mail me if you need a legitimate home business.
I would have 1 joint account and 1 savings account only in my name. That way if things don't turn out right, I would still have my own money
I am no expert, but the best option may be to have a house account for regular monthly expenses (mortgage or rent, utilities, etc.), then decide if each party wants to have a separate or joint account for incidentals. Although, 2 people running around with separate debit cards for the same account sounds like an overdraft waiting to happen.
It is easy enough in this electronic age to do a split direct deposit of your paycheck, with a fixed amount to the house account, and any remainder to another account.
If you DON'T merge all your finances with your spouse, your marriage will fail.
Despite what people generally believe, more marriages fail because of financial problems than because of infidelity; be open %26amp; honest in all your money-dealings with your spouse, and happiness will follow!
And mjgreele is mistaken....by LAW, half of what is in her ';hidden'; accounts belongs to her husband. In the event of a divorce, she could go to jail on a fraud charge if she tried to withhold half that money from her husband!
Does california recognize gay marriage, if they were married here during the short time it was legal?
When california allowed it, and all those people got married, are all of those marriages still recognized?
and when it was legal here, were they recognized in other states as well?Does california recognize gay marriage, if they were married here during the short time it was legal?
California recognizes the marriages that were performed during the legal period.
Other states may or may not recognize the marriages, the same way they see Massachusetts, Iowa, Vermont and other gay marriage states.
- StuartDoes california recognize gay marriage, if they were married here during the short time it was legal?
Yes. Which is exactly WHY PROP 8 WILL EVENTUALLY BE OVERTURNED. When the court kept Prop 8 in place AND refused to dissolve the legal same-gender marriages that had been performed, it created a funny little scenario.
';ALL heterosexuals can get married. As for the gays... You two... You two... You two... aaaaand... You two... Nobody else unless they are straight.';
I think the judges knew EXACTLY what they were doing, and I LOVE 'em for it. I mean, these are the same judges that overturned Prop 22 in the first place, and made same-gender marriage legal, causing the panties of the entire political right-wing of California to bunch-up like hair in a clogged drain.
It might not happen right away. But it's going to happen. I've seen gay rights come a LONG way in my life; From the nation going into a tizzy over a single girl/girl kiss on ROSANNE, to a few businesses here and there offering domestic partnership benefits, to 6 states (so far) legalizing same-gender marriages.
DON'T FORGET THE MARCH ON WASHINGTON.
OCT 10-11, 2009
http://equalityacrossamerica.org/
Oct 11 is National Coming Out Day!
HOOPLA!
Rock E. Horror
and when it was legal here, were they recognized in other states as well?Does california recognize gay marriage, if they were married here during the short time it was legal?
California recognizes the marriages that were performed during the legal period.
Other states may or may not recognize the marriages, the same way they see Massachusetts, Iowa, Vermont and other gay marriage states.
- StuartDoes california recognize gay marriage, if they were married here during the short time it was legal?
Yes. Which is exactly WHY PROP 8 WILL EVENTUALLY BE OVERTURNED. When the court kept Prop 8 in place AND refused to dissolve the legal same-gender marriages that had been performed, it created a funny little scenario.
';ALL heterosexuals can get married. As for the gays... You two... You two... You two... aaaaand... You two... Nobody else unless they are straight.';
I think the judges knew EXACTLY what they were doing, and I LOVE 'em for it. I mean, these are the same judges that overturned Prop 22 in the first place, and made same-gender marriage legal, causing the panties of the entire political right-wing of California to bunch-up like hair in a clogged drain.
It might not happen right away. But it's going to happen. I've seen gay rights come a LONG way in my life; From the nation going into a tizzy over a single girl/girl kiss on ROSANNE, to a few businesses here and there offering domestic partnership benefits, to 6 states (so far) legalizing same-gender marriages.
DON'T FORGET THE MARCH ON WASHINGTON.
OCT 10-11, 2009
http://equalityacrossamerica.org/
Oct 11 is National Coming Out Day!
HOOPLA!
Rock E. Horror
Is it illegal for step siblings to get married?
I mean like for example they didn't grow up together and met each other in their mid to late teens. And They fall in love with with other eventually could they get married?
I'm just curious about the situation. Would them being together be considered 'forbidden'?Is it illegal for step siblings to get married?
I've never heard of this before,but i think they are allowed to if they at least love each other enougth they shouldnt care what other people sayIs it illegal for step siblings to get married?
No it's not illegal. They have absolutely no blood relationship. And since they love each other, why does what others say matter? Sure it'll be awkward for the family but if they love each other that much then they'll overcome those awkwardness.
It is not illegal to get married to someone who has mo biological connection to you. They are not blood related, therefore there is no legal issue.
I do not think it is illegal, I think the family would be very disappointed though. If it were my son or daugther I wouldn't know what to do.
No Duh No it isn't
depends on if they have a parent in common like they both have the same mother. then yes it is illegal its called incest. whether they grew up together or not .
if no parents are in common then its just icky
I'm not sure if it's illegal, but it would definitely be frowned upon.
Not in my country, no. Not illegal at all.
i don't think so i haven't heard of any law for that plus its not like ur blood related
I'm just curious about the situation. Would them being together be considered 'forbidden'?Is it illegal for step siblings to get married?
I've never heard of this before,but i think they are allowed to if they at least love each other enougth they shouldnt care what other people sayIs it illegal for step siblings to get married?
No it's not illegal. They have absolutely no blood relationship. And since they love each other, why does what others say matter? Sure it'll be awkward for the family but if they love each other that much then they'll overcome those awkwardness.
It is not illegal to get married to someone who has mo biological connection to you. They are not blood related, therefore there is no legal issue.
I do not think it is illegal, I think the family would be very disappointed though. If it were my son or daugther I wouldn't know what to do.
No Duh No it isn't
depends on if they have a parent in common like they both have the same mother. then yes it is illegal its called incest. whether they grew up together or not .
if no parents are in common then its just icky
I'm not sure if it's illegal, but it would definitely be frowned upon.
Not in my country, no. Not illegal at all.
i don't think so i haven't heard of any law for that plus its not like ur blood related
If your boyfriend dies and you are not married, but part owner of everything, does that supercede the will?
My mom's stepdad died and his girlfiend is claiming because her name is on all the accounts and assets, that it supercedes the will and my mom and aunt are not entitled to anything. Can you please clarify for me?If your boyfriend dies and you are not married, but part owner of everything, does that supercede the will?
if her name is on all the accounts and the will and everything else then yes it is her right to claim what she has the rights to claimIf your boyfriend dies and you are not married, but part owner of everything, does that supercede the will?
A spouse (who may or may not need to be legally married. Years of being together may suffice) has certain rights which supercede a will. So all his assets may belong to the wife.
However, even if there is no such rule in your state, or even if she does not qualify, if her name is on the accounts, deeds, etc, she already owns half of them. His will cannot transfer her assets in any way.
So best case scenario in this is the the will allows him to leave his children half of his assets, with the other half belonging to his girlfriend. Worst case is that she (the girlfriend) is entitled to all his assets.
Your mother needs a lawyer to straighten it out. First step should be speaking with the executor of the will.
OWNERSHIP doesn't supersede the will. It make the will irrelevant. Anything SHE owns is NOT part of HIS estate. The will applies ONLY to his estate.
That said, depending on the FORM of joint ownership, the assets may be owned partly by her, and partly by the estate.
this is DEFINITELY a case requiring an estate attorney.
It depends on how the ownership is set up.
The girlfriend may own the assets herself or she may now be partners with your mother.
The will can not supersede the ownership of a bank account.
Gee.
That sounds like fun.
And why would your aunt have anything to do with it?
If her name is on the accounts, I'm afraid she's right. If your mom and aunt are lucky, they MIGHT be able to convince a judge to give them a portion of HALF the assets. But it is a long shot. Her name is on it. It's her stuff.
IF her name is really on the deeds of ownership, a will can't take it away from her.
You need a lawyer.
if her name is on all the accounts and the will and everything else then yes it is her right to claim what she has the rights to claimIf your boyfriend dies and you are not married, but part owner of everything, does that supercede the will?
A spouse (who may or may not need to be legally married. Years of being together may suffice) has certain rights which supercede a will. So all his assets may belong to the wife.
However, even if there is no such rule in your state, or even if she does not qualify, if her name is on the accounts, deeds, etc, she already owns half of them. His will cannot transfer her assets in any way.
So best case scenario in this is the the will allows him to leave his children half of his assets, with the other half belonging to his girlfriend. Worst case is that she (the girlfriend) is entitled to all his assets.
Your mother needs a lawyer to straighten it out. First step should be speaking with the executor of the will.
OWNERSHIP doesn't supersede the will. It make the will irrelevant. Anything SHE owns is NOT part of HIS estate. The will applies ONLY to his estate.
That said, depending on the FORM of joint ownership, the assets may be owned partly by her, and partly by the estate.
this is DEFINITELY a case requiring an estate attorney.
It depends on how the ownership is set up.
The girlfriend may own the assets herself or she may now be partners with your mother.
The will can not supersede the ownership of a bank account.
Gee.
That sounds like fun.
And why would your aunt have anything to do with it?
If her name is on the accounts, I'm afraid she's right. If your mom and aunt are lucky, they MIGHT be able to convince a judge to give them a portion of HALF the assets. But it is a long shot. Her name is on it. It's her stuff.
IF her name is really on the deeds of ownership, a will can't take it away from her.
You need a lawyer.
How does it affect anyone if gays get married?
Gays could start getting married tomorrow and my life would carry on the same as it always has, it doesn't affect me in the slightest, so who cares what they do?How does it affect anyone if gays get married?
The opposition to gay marriage stems from the irrational fear many people have of anything 'different' as well as from the stories in the Bible. There are many, many religious people in the United States, and they have been taught from birth that homosexuality is in some way inherently 'evil'.
This kind of brainwashing cannot be elimated in a short period of time. In fact, I predict it will be many decades before the majority of people understand that homosexuals are people just like them... with feelings, emotions and rights.How does it affect anyone if gays get married?
If you always measure the definition of justice as to whether or not you yourself are being adversely affected or not, then you are saying that you do not care about justice for anybody but yourself. Not all voters are concerned with only themselves. Many voters care about defining justice for all people, not just themselves. That is why many voters support raising the minimum wage, even though they are not going to be paid that wage and even though raising the minimum wage could result in higher prices. The purpose of law is to define justice for all people, not to serve yourself. And the majority of voters and their elected representatives in most states that justice will not be served by legalizing gay marriage.
Do I agree with them? No. But I'm outvoted, so I have to get used to it. As do you.
Because God gave us marriage as a religious bond between 1 MAN and 1 WOMAN. Calling gays ';married'; is a slap in the face to all of us Christians, you're insulting our religion. Also most of us don't want to spread the wicked perversion that is homosexuality. We don't want our children thinking its okay to be a pervert. I'm against abusing people just because they're gay, because they need help. Nobody is born gay. God created us all and he said in the Bible that gays are an abomination to Him. He would never make us to be an abomination to Him. If gays were given the legal right to marry, then whats next? Bestiality? Incest? I can see it now, ';I love my donkey, so I want to marry him.';
Its completely wrong, immoral and disgusting. All of you that are for gays should be ashamed of yourselves.
The churches need something to occupy their time, and spending craploads of money to spread hate propaganda about certain minority groups gives them something to do. Since they can't legally do it to blacks and women anymore, gays have become the new popular target.
I'm sure God will thank them for working so hard to keep people in love from marrying each other, while the institution of heterosexual marriage shows 50 percent divorce rates.
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';If you always measure the definition of justice as to whether or not you yourself are being adversely affected or not, then you are saying that you do not care about justice for anybody but yourself.';: Um, gay marriage is not equivalent to letting someone commit a violent crime. It is not equivalent to letting someone victimize another person. It is letting people who love each other have medical and financial privileges. Der. Man, people come up with some of the most fallacious arguments.
It doesn't. It doesn't make marriage less sacred because marriage doesn't have to be religious. It can be legal.
Churches don't have to perform ceremonies.
Kids don't ';turn'; gay.
It doesn't increase the divorce rate.
Ask people in MA, they don't even care.
Lady America:
Wow. Kid's don't turn gay. It's not a choice. Fine, you don't like gay people. Whatever. I don't care but don't take away rights from them.
Yeah the bible also says its okay to stone children and sell your wife and it tells you not to eat shell fish.
And your bible doesn't apply to me. And the founding fathers understood seperation of church and state.
That is your OPINION...now lets look at history and FACTS.
Historically marriage has been and IS defined as the Union of a man and a woman
Marriage IS a religious Sacrament in MOST communities
Churches are opposed to homosexuality
Were the Gov. to step in and OVERRULE the will of the people and make marriage the same....Gay couples wishing to be married in Church could FORCE a church to preform a ceremony in DIRECT opposition to their beliefs or face federal and civil actions for discrimination....
THAT IS against the Constitution...the STATE would be dictating
Religious doctrine...
Let them have Civil Unions ....all the rights and responsibilities...but just not the name......
How does it Effect me...it starts to violate my Constitutional rights to not having the freedom of a religion NOT directed by the state...
If you have any traditional values like marriage being between one man and one woman this certainly does affect you. This diminishes the sanctity of traditional marriage and where will it end? This is not an attempt to get equal treatment, it is a deliberate attempt to undermine marriage as we know it. They can get equality any number of ways without calling it marriage.
Marriage is one man and one woman.
It would tell our children that being gay is ok when it is not. It would affect me knowing my Country is going more downhill by allowing them to marry. And it would alos affect my Country in the future with them being allowed to raise children to think being gay is ok.
I am a Christian and I am against Gay Marriage.
Marriage IS sacred as it says in the Bible that being gay is a sin and an abomination onto the Lord.
If you do not like it then you are free to move to another Country where Christianity did not help create the Country.
Gay marriage won't have any affect on you. These religious/conservative bullies trying to pick on Gays. I truly believe they do this because they perceive Gays as weak and timid.
Do you think these same guys would fight to deny marriage rights to muslims or jews?
I believe the argument is that gay is contagious because is a pleasing life style and will erode society.
I personally don't care.
it doesnt, its just that people who are unhappy with their own miserable life, like to heap pain on strangers, to divert attenton away for the losers they are.
It doesn't really have any effect on anyone but those getting married
Its a slippery slope. You let them get married, the next thing you know, they'll want the right to vote and own property.
It doesn't.
Our country would be much better off if people went back to the old way of just minding their own business.
Some wacky evangelical hate monger who wants to make a name.
Because then the gay recruiters will start turning your children gay.
It doesn't.
It doesn't.
I don't care if gays marry. I just don't want the state or country to sanction it.
GOD DOES NOT WANT IT!
ew.
It's against my rights. Isn't that what you people cry all the time? I don't want to have to explain to my 5 year-old kid why gays are getting married. It's unnatural.
they pay less taxes.
The opposition to gay marriage stems from the irrational fear many people have of anything 'different' as well as from the stories in the Bible. There are many, many religious people in the United States, and they have been taught from birth that homosexuality is in some way inherently 'evil'.
This kind of brainwashing cannot be elimated in a short period of time. In fact, I predict it will be many decades before the majority of people understand that homosexuals are people just like them... with feelings, emotions and rights.How does it affect anyone if gays get married?
If you always measure the definition of justice as to whether or not you yourself are being adversely affected or not, then you are saying that you do not care about justice for anybody but yourself. Not all voters are concerned with only themselves. Many voters care about defining justice for all people, not just themselves. That is why many voters support raising the minimum wage, even though they are not going to be paid that wage and even though raising the minimum wage could result in higher prices. The purpose of law is to define justice for all people, not to serve yourself. And the majority of voters and their elected representatives in most states that justice will not be served by legalizing gay marriage.
Do I agree with them? No. But I'm outvoted, so I have to get used to it. As do you.
Because God gave us marriage as a religious bond between 1 MAN and 1 WOMAN. Calling gays ';married'; is a slap in the face to all of us Christians, you're insulting our religion. Also most of us don't want to spread the wicked perversion that is homosexuality. We don't want our children thinking its okay to be a pervert. I'm against abusing people just because they're gay, because they need help. Nobody is born gay. God created us all and he said in the Bible that gays are an abomination to Him. He would never make us to be an abomination to Him. If gays were given the legal right to marry, then whats next? Bestiality? Incest? I can see it now, ';I love my donkey, so I want to marry him.';
Its completely wrong, immoral and disgusting. All of you that are for gays should be ashamed of yourselves.
The churches need something to occupy their time, and spending craploads of money to spread hate propaganda about certain minority groups gives them something to do. Since they can't legally do it to blacks and women anymore, gays have become the new popular target.
I'm sure God will thank them for working so hard to keep people in love from marrying each other, while the institution of heterosexual marriage shows 50 percent divorce rates.
___________
';If you always measure the definition of justice as to whether or not you yourself are being adversely affected or not, then you are saying that you do not care about justice for anybody but yourself.';: Um, gay marriage is not equivalent to letting someone commit a violent crime. It is not equivalent to letting someone victimize another person. It is letting people who love each other have medical and financial privileges. Der. Man, people come up with some of the most fallacious arguments.
It doesn't. It doesn't make marriage less sacred because marriage doesn't have to be religious. It can be legal.
Churches don't have to perform ceremonies.
Kids don't ';turn'; gay.
It doesn't increase the divorce rate.
Ask people in MA, they don't even care.
Lady America:
Wow. Kid's don't turn gay. It's not a choice. Fine, you don't like gay people. Whatever. I don't care but don't take away rights from them.
Yeah the bible also says its okay to stone children and sell your wife and it tells you not to eat shell fish.
And your bible doesn't apply to me. And the founding fathers understood seperation of church and state.
That is your OPINION...now lets look at history and FACTS.
Historically marriage has been and IS defined as the Union of a man and a woman
Marriage IS a religious Sacrament in MOST communities
Churches are opposed to homosexuality
Were the Gov. to step in and OVERRULE the will of the people and make marriage the same....Gay couples wishing to be married in Church could FORCE a church to preform a ceremony in DIRECT opposition to their beliefs or face federal and civil actions for discrimination....
THAT IS against the Constitution...the STATE would be dictating
Religious doctrine...
Let them have Civil Unions ....all the rights and responsibilities...but just not the name......
How does it Effect me...it starts to violate my Constitutional rights to not having the freedom of a religion NOT directed by the state...
If you have any traditional values like marriage being between one man and one woman this certainly does affect you. This diminishes the sanctity of traditional marriage and where will it end? This is not an attempt to get equal treatment, it is a deliberate attempt to undermine marriage as we know it. They can get equality any number of ways without calling it marriage.
Marriage is one man and one woman.
It would tell our children that being gay is ok when it is not. It would affect me knowing my Country is going more downhill by allowing them to marry. And it would alos affect my Country in the future with them being allowed to raise children to think being gay is ok.
I am a Christian and I am against Gay Marriage.
Marriage IS sacred as it says in the Bible that being gay is a sin and an abomination onto the Lord.
If you do not like it then you are free to move to another Country where Christianity did not help create the Country.
Gay marriage won't have any affect on you. These religious/conservative bullies trying to pick on Gays. I truly believe they do this because they perceive Gays as weak and timid.
Do you think these same guys would fight to deny marriage rights to muslims or jews?
I believe the argument is that gay is contagious because is a pleasing life style and will erode society.
I personally don't care.
it doesnt, its just that people who are unhappy with their own miserable life, like to heap pain on strangers, to divert attenton away for the losers they are.
It doesn't really have any effect on anyone but those getting married
Its a slippery slope. You let them get married, the next thing you know, they'll want the right to vote and own property.
It doesn't.
Our country would be much better off if people went back to the old way of just minding their own business.
Some wacky evangelical hate monger who wants to make a name.
Because then the gay recruiters will start turning your children gay.
It doesn't.
It doesn't.
I don't care if gays marry. I just don't want the state or country to sanction it.
GOD DOES NOT WANT IT!
ew.
It's against my rights. Isn't that what you people cry all the time? I don't want to have to explain to my 5 year-old kid why gays are getting married. It's unnatural.
they pay less taxes.
How did I handle this situation with a married friend?
My married friend (about to get a divorce) expressed and interest in me and wants to have a relationship with me. I told him that I did too but now was not the right time. If he ever becomes 100% single then we could talk and that I will keep my distance for now. He agreed. My girlfriends said I probably turned him off, was too assertive and should have been softer on him or gone out with him regardless. What do you think? I have not heard from him but he is probably involved in his mess and I should not interfere.How did I handle this situation with a married friend?
I think you handled it well.. the fact is, right now he's probably rebounding and you don't need to get caught up in that.. you did what you felt was right.. if he's not willing to wait, he's not worth your time.How did I handle this situation with a married friend?
V, you are doing the right thing because there will be no issues once he is divorced. Also, make sure that you see the copy of the decree as well. If he wants you, he will get it done. Some of your friends are not thinking about your feelings if it doesn't goes well. The reason why you are not hearing from him is because he wanted to see if he can get you caught up in the mess as well.
I think you did the right thing. One he is still married. Two you don't want to to be the rebound girl. If he is really interested in you then he will respect your wishes and get a hold of you when he is through his divorce.
Stick with your strategy. You are 1000% accurate to let him get his divorce straight before engaging in any relationship with him. You don't want to be crutch or rebound.
When he's legally divorced then he can express interest in you or anybody else.
Until then....stir clear.
I think you handled it well.. the fact is, right now he's probably rebounding and you don't need to get caught up in that.. you did what you felt was right.. if he's not willing to wait, he's not worth your time.How did I handle this situation with a married friend?
V, you are doing the right thing because there will be no issues once he is divorced. Also, make sure that you see the copy of the decree as well. If he wants you, he will get it done. Some of your friends are not thinking about your feelings if it doesn't goes well. The reason why you are not hearing from him is because he wanted to see if he can get you caught up in the mess as well.
I think you did the right thing. One he is still married. Two you don't want to to be the rebound girl. If he is really interested in you then he will respect your wishes and get a hold of you when he is through his divorce.
Stick with your strategy. You are 1000% accurate to let him get his divorce straight before engaging in any relationship with him. You don't want to be crutch or rebound.
When he's legally divorced then he can express interest in you or anybody else.
Until then....stir clear.
Why do celebrities even bother getting married to one another?
Clearly, most of them don't do it because they want to start a family. These days, when the do get married, it's only after the birth of a baby, or two together. Then, they stay married a few months, ar a few short years, split, and have a messy divorce. Then they start the same cycle all over again.Why do celebrities even bother getting married to one another?
for the publicityWhy do celebrities even bother getting married to one another?
I think they just don't have any other options. They spend all their time on movie sets, awards shows, etc. They only really spend time around other celebrities. Yes, I suppose they could date normal people, but then they probably don't know if that person is in it for the money or not.
Of course, there are celebrity couples that make it work. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are still going strong. As are Tim McGraw and Faith Hill. I also absolutely love Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman together. She lives on a farm in Nashville now. Very down to earth. I think if they can find a way to avoid the papparazzi and rumors, they can make it work.
Why do people get married if they ain't gunna have kids? Call me old fashion (';old fashion!';) but I think it's luuvvv. Anyway that'd not true! There are loads of celeb couples that have been together ages, look at Posh and Becks, they're not spliting anytime soon, she moved to ******* America for him.
I think a lot of it is about publicity and instant gratification.Ego-attention now -as opposed to taking the time to develop a relationship based what you and I may do.It's the celebrity lifestyle and mindset.
I agree. There are some exceptions, but for the most part, they don't even stay married long enough to even say they were married in the first place. Especially the younger generation of celebs
becasue they think if they do this theyll get put on some kind of magazine.
all they want is drama :D
they are just imature and cant take anything seriously :]
Because a lot of celebs make it work, we just don't hear about them...
Because they can, and they have the money for it.mineral foundation
for the publicityWhy do celebrities even bother getting married to one another?
I think they just don't have any other options. They spend all their time on movie sets, awards shows, etc. They only really spend time around other celebrities. Yes, I suppose they could date normal people, but then they probably don't know if that person is in it for the money or not.
Of course, there are celebrity couples that make it work. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are still going strong. As are Tim McGraw and Faith Hill. I also absolutely love Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman together. She lives on a farm in Nashville now. Very down to earth. I think if they can find a way to avoid the papparazzi and rumors, they can make it work.
Why do people get married if they ain't gunna have kids? Call me old fashion (';old fashion!';) but I think it's luuvvv. Anyway that'd not true! There are loads of celeb couples that have been together ages, look at Posh and Becks, they're not spliting anytime soon, she moved to ******* America for him.
I think a lot of it is about publicity and instant gratification.Ego-attention now -as opposed to taking the time to develop a relationship based what you and I may do.It's the celebrity lifestyle and mindset.
I agree. There are some exceptions, but for the most part, they don't even stay married long enough to even say they were married in the first place. Especially the younger generation of celebs
becasue they think if they do this theyll get put on some kind of magazine.
all they want is drama :D
they are just imature and cant take anything seriously :]
Because a lot of celebs make it work, we just don't hear about them...
Because they can, and they have the money for it.
How can a mother and a father, who are underage in nevada, get married without he's family permission?
I love my child's father and he loves me. Cute but, we have a daughter and we are both underage. His family is not helping me or his daughter and by law I can't more a finger about it. For me the best thing would be for us to get married, so how can we do that? Doesn't he have rights as a father?How can a mother and a father, who are underage in nevada, get married without he's family permission?
Go to a Judge and get a court order. In many cases when there is a baby involved a judge will issue that order over a parents objections. He can even marry you.How can a mother and a father, who are underage in nevada, get married without he's family permission?
yes he has rights as a father. and his family is not obligated to help u at all. it would be nice if they did. but if he is underage then u have to abide by the law in ur state. just how old are u? and where is ur family in all this?
Go to a Judge and get a court order. In many cases when there is a baby involved a judge will issue that order over a parents objections. He can even marry you.How can a mother and a father, who are underage in nevada, get married without he's family permission?
yes he has rights as a father. and his family is not obligated to help u at all. it would be nice if they did. but if he is underage then u have to abide by the law in ur state. just how old are u? and where is ur family in all this?
Is Texas making it easier for married women to put their babies up for adoption?
I am just thinking out loud. But I was told December 24 when I filled out my daughter's birth certificate that I didn't have to list my husband as her father if I didn't want to. What changed from 2 years ago? Is this an attempt to make a married person easier to give a baby up for adoption?Is Texas making it easier for married women to put their babies up for adoption?
No, sounds like you got a lazy social worker. The point is to get everything right on the birth certificate paperwork, however sometimes people try for short cuts.
The only other option I can see is that there might be a high perecentage of women giving birth who are still married to someone when they have been separated without funds to divorce and new guy is the dad, not the husband.
I don't think the purpose was to make it easier to give a child up for adoption, I honestly think it has to do with lazy hospital staff and the issue regarding people not getting divorced.Is Texas making it easier for married women to put their babies up for adoption?
WHat!! That is an outrage. I am so sorry that happened to you.
I think that social worker was trying to get your baby.
A husband is considered to be the legal father when a child is born.
There was a case in Denver, at Denver General Hospital, summer of 2003, where a married couple's baby was taken at birth because hospital personnel thought the mother was ';homeless.' She was not homeless, and her husband was present.
The husband protested, but the hospital workers told him';this isn't about you.';
The baby's name was 'Sunshine Gates.';The family was Native American. This story was reported in the media, and became the impetus for a legislative bill and law which limited the power of hospital workers to remove children, simply based on the ';opinions'; of hospital workers.
(and I don't think homelessness is a reason to take babies , either!!!)
Happily, baby Sunshine was returned to her family, but the family was severely traumatized.
eta: I wouldn't be naming the baby, but it was reported in the media, and the law was named after the baby, as well.
My son's wife had a child while they were married, and she did not list him as the father. She gave the child her boyfriend's surname.
They were married at the time of conception and at the time of the birth. He is in the military. She was a military dependent and the pregnancy and delivery was covered by his insurance. (The baby's nursery care was not.) He had been in training in another state for 3 months prior to the pregnancy, but he was back home around the time of conception.
The DNA test ordered in the divorce three months after the child's birth did show that he wasn't the father, but at the time of the birth, paternity was unknown. This was their (her) second child. He did not deny paternity. He was extremely upset that the child was given another surname since paternity was not established at the time of the birth. Yet, she was able to do just that. His insurance still paid for the pregnancy, birth, and her hospitalization, and he was required to make the co-pay. It was a c-section. Talk about having your cake and eating it, too!
This was not in Texas, but it was in another one of the 50 states.
I don't think you got the right story, its only if you aren't married that you leave the name off without the permission or proof of paternity of the man.
It has nothing to do with adoption, and if you are married the father is still assumed to be the parent.
Either your nurse was wrong or they didn't realize you were married.
That's very strange, I thought a married woman's husband was automatically named as the father on the birth certificate.
Sounds like the social worker was poorly trained in her job.
Dear 23,
I don't know if she was interested in obtaining your child (it is certainly possible) but she definitely does sound very unprofessional and biased against fathers.
No, sounds like you got a lazy social worker. The point is to get everything right on the birth certificate paperwork, however sometimes people try for short cuts.
The only other option I can see is that there might be a high perecentage of women giving birth who are still married to someone when they have been separated without funds to divorce and new guy is the dad, not the husband.
I don't think the purpose was to make it easier to give a child up for adoption, I honestly think it has to do with lazy hospital staff and the issue regarding people not getting divorced.Is Texas making it easier for married women to put their babies up for adoption?
WHat!! That is an outrage. I am so sorry that happened to you.
I think that social worker was trying to get your baby.
A husband is considered to be the legal father when a child is born.
There was a case in Denver, at Denver General Hospital, summer of 2003, where a married couple's baby was taken at birth because hospital personnel thought the mother was ';homeless.' She was not homeless, and her husband was present.
The husband protested, but the hospital workers told him';this isn't about you.';
The baby's name was 'Sunshine Gates.';The family was Native American. This story was reported in the media, and became the impetus for a legislative bill and law which limited the power of hospital workers to remove children, simply based on the ';opinions'; of hospital workers.
(and I don't think homelessness is a reason to take babies , either!!!)
Happily, baby Sunshine was returned to her family, but the family was severely traumatized.
eta: I wouldn't be naming the baby, but it was reported in the media, and the law was named after the baby, as well.
My son's wife had a child while they were married, and she did not list him as the father. She gave the child her boyfriend's surname.
They were married at the time of conception and at the time of the birth. He is in the military. She was a military dependent and the pregnancy and delivery was covered by his insurance. (The baby's nursery care was not.) He had been in training in another state for 3 months prior to the pregnancy, but he was back home around the time of conception.
The DNA test ordered in the divorce three months after the child's birth did show that he wasn't the father, but at the time of the birth, paternity was unknown. This was their (her) second child. He did not deny paternity. He was extremely upset that the child was given another surname since paternity was not established at the time of the birth. Yet, she was able to do just that. His insurance still paid for the pregnancy, birth, and her hospitalization, and he was required to make the co-pay. It was a c-section. Talk about having your cake and eating it, too!
This was not in Texas, but it was in another one of the 50 states.
I don't think you got the right story, its only if you aren't married that you leave the name off without the permission or proof of paternity of the man.
It has nothing to do with adoption, and if you are married the father is still assumed to be the parent.
Either your nurse was wrong or they didn't realize you were married.
That's very strange, I thought a married woman's husband was automatically named as the father on the birth certificate.
Sounds like the social worker was poorly trained in her job.
Dear 23,
I don't know if she was interested in obtaining your child (it is certainly possible) but she definitely does sound very unprofessional and biased against fathers.
How do you comfort a co-worker who was dumped by her already-married boyfriend?
This married boyfriend was a former co-worker as well. Having affairs isn't the right thing to do but she is close to having a nervous breakdown and I'm very worried about her.How do you comfort a co-worker who was dumped by her already-married boyfriend?
You know.... sometimes you don't need words to comfort a person. Just being their shoulder to cry on %26amp; being there period is all they need. Tell her that it will be alright %26amp; that she is better off without him. She deserves way better than that guy. Be strong for her, she's going to be needing a friend more than anything right now. Best of luck :))
You know.... sometimes you don't need words to comfort a person. Just being their shoulder to cry on %26amp; being there period is all they need. Tell her that it will be alright %26amp; that she is better off without him. She deserves way better than that guy. Be strong for her, she's going to be needing a friend more than anything right now. Best of luck :))
What are the steps to get married in San Francisco?
I need to know if I can get married without any ceremony. Is that possible? I was doing some research and found you have to obtain a marriage license from county clerk then the next step seems to be a ceremony where 2 weeks later you can obtain a marriage certificate. I wonder if I can obtain marriage certificate without ceremony? Thanks in advance.What are the steps to get married in San Francisco?
It all depends on what state and even county you live in
It all depends on what state and even county you live in
I am a married woman being flirted by married man that affected my marriage life. Can I file a law suit?
I am a married woman, volunteer working for non-profit organization. There is a married man, also volunteer working there, he has been flirted me, starting by implying, then he emailed and called me 鈥渉is baby lover';. His acts really affect my marriage life and made my husband very angry. Can this be called: sex harassment and can I sue him and the organization for this matter?I am a married woman being flirted by married man that affected my marriage life. Can I file a law suit?
well stop pretending as if you don;t know what to do! I do not appreciat ethat at all! It is obvious that in order to save your marriage you should leave your workplace TOMORROW(!) and find another job especially since you are just a volunteer there. If you don;t you probably enjoy that flirting and don;t be surprised if it will end your marriage. so forget about that other guy and leave that job immediately. oh my god so obvious. Good LuckI am a married woman being flirted by married man that affected my marriage life. Can I file a law suit?
It depends on the state. It sounds more like harrassment and the most important thing is you need proof to win any lawsuit. Also you need to know if he is worth suing, ie he has assets you can obtain. If the man has nothing you may be wasting your time. A non-profit organization would not have anything to sue for. You may be able to press charges or get a restraining order. Bring it to the attention of the place you volunteer for too, they should put a stop to it. To be sure look up an attorney and see if you an get a free consultation.
Why in the world would you sue the organization? They are not doing this to you. He is. You need to be real and fair about this. First off, send him a response to the email, letting him know that you showed this to your husband and neither of you is happy with his inappropriate behavior. Tell him in no undertain terms that he is to never message you again or to have anything to do with you at your volunteer work. If he doesn't stop, file a restraining order against this bozo, making it illegal for him to be near you, to call you, to text you, to email you or to in any way have any contact with you.
Yes it is sexual harassment. If you ask him to stop and he doesn't it is also stalking. Report his behavior to the organization. They have an obligation to stop him. Give them copies of any unwanted e-mails he has sent you and keep a printed copy for yourself. Find out what there policy is on harassment and make sure it is followed. If they don't take care of it you can report him to the police. You would need to consult a lawyer to determine what your options are beyond that.
Your a volunteer for a cash strapped non-profit and your first thought is to sue? Since your receiving no re numeration and your participation is voluntary why don't you simply find another worthy cause to donate your time? Do you really want to spend large sums of money and a great deal of time on depositions reliving this unpleasant situation in the public eye when simply walking away and going on with your life is so much easier? Can you sue? Sure. Should you? Only you and your husband can answer that.
It was up to you to tell this man to leave you alone. How did he get your e-mail? And even if there was a group e-mail list, for example, you could have blocked him, or got a new email address so he wouldn't be able to email you.
I don't know why you, and so many people would instantly think of the word ';sue';.....do you know what that would involve??? It would involve proving every single thing he's done, you would be asked how did he get your email, and others would be asked if you might have brought some of this behavior on. You had better be prepared. It would get costly too, so isn't it a lot simpler to tell this guy just to buzz off??? Or just tell a supervisor to keep an eye on him, so they can be a witness to his flirting??
come on u hubby needs to get a life i rather have someone look at my husband that means hes worth looking at, comeon now ur taking suing please just go on with ur life at least hes flirting because if none pays u no mind u must be ugly so at least he was flirting u guys need to grow up this is coming from a 40 year old married peson of 14 years just tell the guy i respect ur complement but im all set with my jelous hubby sorry he must not be cute plus u guys have alot of nerve trying to sue a non-profit organization ur basically working for free now u want to get paid wow u must be in ur 20;s
Honestly what really works with unwarranted flirting is to totally embarass him in public. there was this one guy who did the same thing to me at work. innocent flirting, but then he crossed the line by asking me if i ';watch porn.'; i said really loudly ';EW. FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK TO.'; REALLY loudly so everyone heard. then he tried apologizing for it a few days later and I said (again, very loudly) ';Apology accepted but this is the LAST conversation you and I will ever have'; and walked away. he never talked to me again.
Are you looking to win in a lawsuit, or are you looking for the harassment to stop?
You need to take steps, not just run to think of a lawsuit. First off, how did he get your email address? Have you spoken with any manager in the non-profit to tell him to stop? Have you told him to stop?
depends on the state you live in but if you kept the email I think you can sue him. But if you have not told the boss of the organization where you volunteer and give them a chance to rectify the situation I dont think you can sue them
Yes, you can sud him for sex harassment as soon you haven't give him any reason to do so. No one have to hold that situation in any circunstance. That accion is criminal.
That is definitely sexual harassment. You can sue him, but I don't know about the organization. Sexual harassment is a crime.
No. You are tripping.. Cus him out.. Tell him the acceptable forms of communication and keep it moving, You- are whats wrong with todays legal system - everybody wants to sue over nonsense. Oh, and grow a backbone.
Nope, it is not sexual harassment because you let him do that from the beginning. It looks that the lawsuit is only an excuse for you to clean your name. You are a grown woman and you knew what you were doing.
if he has your e-mail address you must like it,you shuoldnt have let it go this far,a man will go as far as the woman lets them,how far did you let him go before you tried to stop it?
You should just had told him from the begining to knock it off. You should just stop volunterring in the organization his in. Change your email. I dont see why you would want to sue him. Just Advoid him at all means
Yes you can sue. Or you can grow up and tell him to shove it. Stop trying to get a free lunch and stand up for yourself like a normal person.
you cant sue him. but you can let the place your working at know about it, and they should, and probaly will either make him stop,or not let him work there anymore.
NO!! Just ask him to stop, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and that your husband is upset about it. He will get the hint and leave you alone.
if u wanna get dramatic about it, i suppose, or straight out tell him u don't like him speaking to u that way and if he's mature he'll understand and stop... Sounds like you're looking for an easy buck.
Madam, you are probably encouraging this type of behaviour. I suggest you keep your clothing slightly more demuring and learn to sit with your legs closed.
Good day Madam...
Tell him to knock it off, stay away from him and get on with your life.
I think we are only getting a small fraction of this story.
The things people sue over is ridiculous!!!
The question should be why did you let it get ti that point? How did he get your e-mail address?
Sounds like someone is just looking for extra cash
But by not telling him to stop its just as much your fault as it is his and how did he get your email ? and how did your husband find out ?
Yes, Im pretty sure even on the sole fact that he called you his baby lover.
well stop pretending as if you don;t know what to do! I do not appreciat ethat at all! It is obvious that in order to save your marriage you should leave your workplace TOMORROW(!) and find another job especially since you are just a volunteer there. If you don;t you probably enjoy that flirting and don;t be surprised if it will end your marriage. so forget about that other guy and leave that job immediately. oh my god so obvious. Good LuckI am a married woman being flirted by married man that affected my marriage life. Can I file a law suit?
It depends on the state. It sounds more like harrassment and the most important thing is you need proof to win any lawsuit. Also you need to know if he is worth suing, ie he has assets you can obtain. If the man has nothing you may be wasting your time. A non-profit organization would not have anything to sue for. You may be able to press charges or get a restraining order. Bring it to the attention of the place you volunteer for too, they should put a stop to it. To be sure look up an attorney and see if you an get a free consultation.
Why in the world would you sue the organization? They are not doing this to you. He is. You need to be real and fair about this. First off, send him a response to the email, letting him know that you showed this to your husband and neither of you is happy with his inappropriate behavior. Tell him in no undertain terms that he is to never message you again or to have anything to do with you at your volunteer work. If he doesn't stop, file a restraining order against this bozo, making it illegal for him to be near you, to call you, to text you, to email you or to in any way have any contact with you.
Yes it is sexual harassment. If you ask him to stop and he doesn't it is also stalking. Report his behavior to the organization. They have an obligation to stop him. Give them copies of any unwanted e-mails he has sent you and keep a printed copy for yourself. Find out what there policy is on harassment and make sure it is followed. If they don't take care of it you can report him to the police. You would need to consult a lawyer to determine what your options are beyond that.
Your a volunteer for a cash strapped non-profit and your first thought is to sue? Since your receiving no re numeration and your participation is voluntary why don't you simply find another worthy cause to donate your time? Do you really want to spend large sums of money and a great deal of time on depositions reliving this unpleasant situation in the public eye when simply walking away and going on with your life is so much easier? Can you sue? Sure. Should you? Only you and your husband can answer that.
It was up to you to tell this man to leave you alone. How did he get your e-mail? And even if there was a group e-mail list, for example, you could have blocked him, or got a new email address so he wouldn't be able to email you.
I don't know why you, and so many people would instantly think of the word ';sue';.....do you know what that would involve??? It would involve proving every single thing he's done, you would be asked how did he get your email, and others would be asked if you might have brought some of this behavior on. You had better be prepared. It would get costly too, so isn't it a lot simpler to tell this guy just to buzz off??? Or just tell a supervisor to keep an eye on him, so they can be a witness to his flirting??
come on u hubby needs to get a life i rather have someone look at my husband that means hes worth looking at, comeon now ur taking suing please just go on with ur life at least hes flirting because if none pays u no mind u must be ugly so at least he was flirting u guys need to grow up this is coming from a 40 year old married peson of 14 years just tell the guy i respect ur complement but im all set with my jelous hubby sorry he must not be cute plus u guys have alot of nerve trying to sue a non-profit organization ur basically working for free now u want to get paid wow u must be in ur 20;s
Honestly what really works with unwarranted flirting is to totally embarass him in public. there was this one guy who did the same thing to me at work. innocent flirting, but then he crossed the line by asking me if i ';watch porn.'; i said really loudly ';EW. FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK TO.'; REALLY loudly so everyone heard. then he tried apologizing for it a few days later and I said (again, very loudly) ';Apology accepted but this is the LAST conversation you and I will ever have'; and walked away. he never talked to me again.
Are you looking to win in a lawsuit, or are you looking for the harassment to stop?
You need to take steps, not just run to think of a lawsuit. First off, how did he get your email address? Have you spoken with any manager in the non-profit to tell him to stop? Have you told him to stop?
depends on the state you live in but if you kept the email I think you can sue him. But if you have not told the boss of the organization where you volunteer and give them a chance to rectify the situation I dont think you can sue them
Yes, you can sud him for sex harassment as soon you haven't give him any reason to do so. No one have to hold that situation in any circunstance. That accion is criminal.
That is definitely sexual harassment. You can sue him, but I don't know about the organization. Sexual harassment is a crime.
No. You are tripping.. Cus him out.. Tell him the acceptable forms of communication and keep it moving, You- are whats wrong with todays legal system - everybody wants to sue over nonsense. Oh, and grow a backbone.
Nope, it is not sexual harassment because you let him do that from the beginning. It looks that the lawsuit is only an excuse for you to clean your name. You are a grown woman and you knew what you were doing.
if he has your e-mail address you must like it,you shuoldnt have let it go this far,a man will go as far as the woman lets them,how far did you let him go before you tried to stop it?
You should just had told him from the begining to knock it off. You should just stop volunterring in the organization his in. Change your email. I dont see why you would want to sue him. Just Advoid him at all means
Yes you can sue. Or you can grow up and tell him to shove it. Stop trying to get a free lunch and stand up for yourself like a normal person.
you cant sue him. but you can let the place your working at know about it, and they should, and probaly will either make him stop,or not let him work there anymore.
NO!! Just ask him to stop, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and that your husband is upset about it. He will get the hint and leave you alone.
if u wanna get dramatic about it, i suppose, or straight out tell him u don't like him speaking to u that way and if he's mature he'll understand and stop... Sounds like you're looking for an easy buck.
Madam, you are probably encouraging this type of behaviour. I suggest you keep your clothing slightly more demuring and learn to sit with your legs closed.
Good day Madam...
Tell him to knock it off, stay away from him and get on with your life.
I think we are only getting a small fraction of this story.
The things people sue over is ridiculous!!!
The question should be why did you let it get ti that point? How did he get your e-mail address?
Sounds like someone is just looking for extra cash
But by not telling him to stop its just as much your fault as it is his and how did he get your email ? and how did your husband find out ?
Yes, Im pretty sure even on the sole fact that he called you his baby lover.
Why a lot of Indian women software professionals do not want to get married?
Puzzled at the number of women do not want to get married. What they are upto?Why a lot of Indian women software professionals do not want to get married?
They probably like their freedom and aren't interested in the Stone-Age notion of marriage that permeates the Indian Culture. Makes sense to me, anyway.Why a lot of Indian women software professionals do not want to get married?
Probably because Indian culture in general is very patriarchal, and they're afraid that once they get married they'll be expected to quit their jobs.
Japan has this problem, as well. The culture is very traditional, even though education is highly valued. So more and more women are opting out of marriage, because marriage and children means their careers are over. More young Japanese women would rather be self-sufficient and USE their intelligence and education instead of throwing it all away to serve a husband and children. And because Japanese work places and Japanese men especially have not changed, the result is that Japan has the lowest birth rate in the industrialized world.
My guess is that the women you work with are the same. Marriage = career death, so they prefer to keep making their own money and living lives the way they want to, just like men have always been able to. The only solution is for your culture to change so that workplaces make allowances for parents, and dads take more responsibility at home so moms can continue to work if they choose.
Maybe they don't want to be Indian men's ';property'; and have a career!
They dont want to get tied with anybody and want to have fun in their life.
but the have lust and sex ambitions..they are cheating themselvesmineral foundation
They probably like their freedom and aren't interested in the Stone-Age notion of marriage that permeates the Indian Culture. Makes sense to me, anyway.Why a lot of Indian women software professionals do not want to get married?
Probably because Indian culture in general is very patriarchal, and they're afraid that once they get married they'll be expected to quit their jobs.
Japan has this problem, as well. The culture is very traditional, even though education is highly valued. So more and more women are opting out of marriage, because marriage and children means their careers are over. More young Japanese women would rather be self-sufficient and USE their intelligence and education instead of throwing it all away to serve a husband and children. And because Japanese work places and Japanese men especially have not changed, the result is that Japan has the lowest birth rate in the industrialized world.
My guess is that the women you work with are the same. Marriage = career death, so they prefer to keep making their own money and living lives the way they want to, just like men have always been able to. The only solution is for your culture to change so that workplaces make allowances for parents, and dads take more responsibility at home so moms can continue to work if they choose.
Maybe they don't want to be Indian men's ';property'; and have a career!
They dont want to get tied with anybody and want to have fun in their life.
but the have lust and sex ambitions..they are cheating themselves
Was there a time is history when catholic priests were allowed to be married?
I heard this was true prior to the eleventh century. If so, was the practice
approved by the church and what happened to change this practice?Was there a time is history when catholic priests were allowed to be married?
You are correct in 1054 a ruling came down regarding celibacy and marriage ... Making a married man ineligible to become a priest and making a priest ineligible to marry.....
See link for details as there is an East/West issue etc. the website explains.. .. Particularly the sections titles Clerical Celibacy and After the Great Schism
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priesthood_…Was there a time is history when catholic priests were allowed to be married?
Some are married today. If a married Anglican priest converts, he is allowed to be a married priest. There are dozens in the United States.
After proper examination by his Catholic bishop and with the permission of the Holy Father, he would be then ordained first as a Catholic transitional deacon and then as a priest. If the former Episcopalian minister were single at the time of his ordination as a Catholic deacon and then priest, he would indeed take the vow of celibacy. If the married former Episcopalian minister were ordained as a Catholic deacon and then priest, he would be exempt by a special favor from the Holy Father of making the promise of celibacy; however, if he later became a widower, then he would be bound to a celibate lifestyle and could not remarry.
No ever since St. Paul's time he has taught that priests should remain unmarried and that rule was put into effect and has not changed. During the middle ages there was a truly ';dark age'; and some of the priests and Bishops disobeyed their orders like the few recently---and had children out of wedlock and other things they should have been ashamed of. There have been many married Anglican priests that have petitioned for full Communion and have been welcomed into the fold as a priest and they have been given special dispensations and they can remain married and still be a priest.
And yes, the Eastern Rite priests can be married, but not the Roman Rite Catholic priests unless they have a special dispensation as mentioned
From what I've understood it wasn't really allowed, but it went on. The Church did not stop it. It was considered better to be unmarried and celibate, but it wasn't required.
It has always been thought that it was better for a priest to be celibate and unmarried, like Christ. A married priest was expected to abstain from sex on the night before he celebrated the Eucharist.
But it wasn't that the Church used to think it was okay to be married and now they don't, it was always considered better to be unmarried if you were a priest. Now it is a necessary discipline of the priesthood.
Yes. In fact, most of the early popes were married.
As a matter of fact, there are at least a dozen married men serving as Catholics Priests today. They were Methodist Priests who converted to Catholic.
In the Eastern Catholic Church, n the early 20th Century, married men could and did become Priests. In my time as a Catholic, I had the extreme pleasure to know one of the last married men to become a Catholic Priest. His father was also a Priest, and his son was a Priest for a while. His wife was one of the most sainted ladies I ever knew.
The Eastern Orthodox Church still today allows married men to be ordained Priests. Only celibate men can be elevated to Bishops though. In the Russian Church, the title MATUSHKA refers to the wife of a Priest. She plays an important role in the life of Church, and is often just as respected as her husband. The Church I was baptized in was founded by Fr. Peter, and later was under the Pastorship of his Son Fr. Nick until his retirement.
Married Priests are a good thing, and there should be more of it. As it is only a matter of Faith, someday the Pope, or a future Pope may reverse the decision and allow married Priests again.
Contrary to what some of my fellow Catholics have told you, YES Catholic priests at one time were not held to a vow of celibacy.
I can't remember when it began (I believe some time in the 8th or 9th century), but it began for a few reasons, some of which include freeing the priests of family obligation (thus making them better shepherds) as well as fixing the issue of inheritance rights (among any children of priests).
This of course is only a disciplinary issue and so only priests and bishops of the Roman rite are required to follow it.
Recently, some excpetions have been made for former-Protestant priests who convert to Catholicism AFTER marrying. This requires the approval of the Pope himself though.
As others have stated, Eastern rite Catholic churches have no such celibacy requirement.
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ETA: You were correct in the date (roughly). It was around the 11th century that the Catholic Church deemed clerical marriages not only illicit but also INVALID. Prior to this, clerical marriage was also illicit, but at least considered valid.
It seems that Clerical *continence* (not the abstinence of marriage but the abstinence of SEX) was widely practiced in Christendom since the 1st century.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clerical_ce…
Yes.
It took about a thousand years for the Church to become spiritually mature enough to start following the advice and example of Jesus and Paul.
The celibate clergy did not come into full bloom until about 1000 C.E. There were married and celibate priests, bishops, and popes before this time.
Priests, religious brothers and religious sisters (nuns) as part of their vocation choose not to marry following:
+ The practice recommended in the Bible
+ The example of Jesus Christ, John the Baptist, and the Apostle Paul.
+++ Scripture +++
In Matthew 19:12, Jesus says, ';Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so; some, because they were made so by others; some, because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.';
In Matthew 19:29, Jesus says, ';And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands for the sake of my name will receive a hundred times more, and will inherit eternal life.';
Matthew 22:30 - Jesus explains, ';At the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage but are like the angels in heaven.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:1, Paul writes, ';It is a good thing for a man not to touch a woman.';
Then in 1 Corinthians 7:7, Paul says, ';Indeed, I wish everyone to be as I am.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:27, Paul writes, ';Are you free of a wife? Then do not look for a wife.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:32-33, Paul teaches, ';I should like you to be free of anxieties. An unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife.'; And in verse 38, ';So then, the one who marries his virgin does well; the one who does not marry her will do better.';
Paul recommends celibacy for full time ministers in the Church so that they are able to focus entirely upon God and building up His kingdom. He “who refrains from marriage will do better.”
See also 1 Timothy 5:9-12, 2 Timothy 2:3-4, Revevation 14:4, Isaiah 56:3-7, and Jeremiah 16:1-4.
+++ Scriptural Examples +++
Biblical role models of a celibate clergy came from John the Baptist, Jesus, and the Apostle Paul.
John the Baptist and Jesus are both believed to have been celibate for their entire lives. Some scholars believe that the example of the Essenes influenced either or both Jesus and John the Baptist in their celibacy.
WWJD? What would Jesus do? Jesus did not marry.
The Apostle Paul is explicit about his celibacy (see 1 Cor. 7). There is also evidence in the gospel of Matthew for the practice of celibacy among at least some early Christians, in the famous passage about becoming “eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 19:12).
The concept took many twists and turns over the years and will probably take a few more before Christ returns in glory.
A priest is ';married'; to the Church. Some people think that a priest who takes his duties seriously cannot take proper care of a wife and family.
With love in Christ.
The Essenes, the Jewish sect that Joseph and Mary belonged to, practiced celibacy. Being uncommon does not mean being unheard of.
Celibacy had always been with the Church, but it was not a requirement. Bishops could only marry once, but be celibate after their wife died. That is what St. Paul meant when he said that bishops should have one wife. Not should have a wife.
Celibacy is not a doctrine. It never was.
It is a disciple, found primarily in the priests of the Latin or Roman Rite. (the largest) There are 23 rites that are in full communion with the Pope and most of them have married priests.
In the case of a married Protestant minister who becomes Catholic, he could become a married priest. There are many former Anglicans who are ordained Catholic priests in the Roman rite and still have their families.
Jesus and Paul RECOMMEND celibacy for full time ministers of the church. They did not command it. There was never a time when the Church did not have celibates.
The belief and practices always preceed later development and definition. Because something is clarified and the understanding is deepened at a later date does not mean it was something that was invented.
When the Son of God came into the world, He surrounded His Incarnation with the aura of chastity. His mother, He made sure, would miraculously conceive Him without carnal intercourse. She would be a virgin before birth, in birth and after birth, as the Church solemnly teaches. Christ was in the words of the liturgy, flos matrius virginis (the flower of a virgin mother). Indeed, He made sure he was brought up in the virginal family of Mary and Joseph. Christ, further, all through His stay on earth, stayed a virgin. He never married.
During His public life, He showed special love for pure souls, such as the two Johns, the Baptist and the Evangelist. Christ could not have spoken more laudably about anyone than He did about John the Baptist, who, Christian revelation in her Tradition tells us, was a virgin. And the Evangelist, as he modestly admits without identifying himself by name, was the one whom Jesus specially loved.
The great apostle St. Paul, faithful interpreter of the New Law and of the mind of Christ, preached the inestimable value of virginity. In view of the more fervent service of God, and gave the reason when he said, “An unmarried man can devote himself to the Lord’s affairs. All he need worry about is pleasing the Lord” (1 Cor 7:32).
All of this clear revelation of the New Testament had almost inevitable consequences. The priests of the New Covenant felt the heavenly affection of this virtue. They sought to be of the number of those to whom in Christ’s prediction, it is given to take this Word (cf. Matt 19:12). They felt if anyone has the grace as Christ said some would have the grace to remain celibate, surely it ought to be the priests. And from the very beginning, the first century, they spontaneously bound themselves to celibate observance.
This, I think, bears more emphasis than we normally give it. There is so much talk these days about imposition, about constraint, about placing heavy, inhuman obligations. The facts of the case are just the opposite. Priestly celibacy in the Catholic Church began as a voluntary, spontaneous desire on the part of the Church’s priests to follow in the footsteps of Christ. So it came about that the practice in the Latin Church. We see the sanction of ecclesiastical law. I repeat, law followed spontaneous choice, not the other way around. There first were celibate priests, and then wisely and understandably, the Church made laws building on what then had already become part of the Church’s Tradition.
Already in 305 A.D. (that’s very early), before the Church’s liberation under Constantine, the Council of Elvira in Spain passed the following decree: “That bishops, priests and deacons, and in general all the clergy, who are specially employed in the service of the altar, abstain from conjugal intercourse. Let those who persist be degraded from the ranks of the clergy” (Can. 33). And by the end of the fourth century, the Second Council of Carthage in Africa declared, “What the apostles taught in the early Church preserved, let us too observe.” Celibacy, I insist, is not a post factum afterthought of the Church. It is an anti factum, reality, practiced by the Church and wanted by those who wanted to be Christ’s priests.
So the tradition went on. And in the Middle Ages, when the Church in Europe was rocked to her foundations over this law of celibacy, one pontiff after another stood his ground until this law was restore to its original integrity. Behind the Church’s legislation is therefore first of all the revealed fact that the Son of God was a virgin. If a priest is another Christ, it is to be like Christ. It is to portray and preach Christ to the people. Is it not proper that, like his Master, he too should not marry? There is no arguing this point
Yes, currently. Eastern Catholic priests are often married and are part of the ';Catholic'; Church. If they change to the Roman rite, they are accepted as married. The same is true for Anglican priests who re-join the Catholic Church.
Yep.
The practice of preventing Priests to marry was entirely about inheritence--a married priest left his worldly goods to his children. An unmarried priest leaves his worldly possessions to the Chruch.
If you were the Church, which would you prefer?
Not Roman Catholic priests. Only Eastern Catholic priests.
I believe this was one of the issues that spurred the Protestant split from the Roman Catholic Church
Yes, they were allowed to marry. And don't you wish they were allowed to now? Imagine all the little boys that might have been spared from some of the predators amongst them...?
Yes, they can still marry in some eastern orthodox rites.
Peter himself was married.
Marriage is ordained of God. It's part of His plan.
True.
No
no
no never. where did you hear that?
approved by the church and what happened to change this practice?Was there a time is history when catholic priests were allowed to be married?
You are correct in 1054 a ruling came down regarding celibacy and marriage ... Making a married man ineligible to become a priest and making a priest ineligible to marry.....
See link for details as there is an East/West issue etc. the website explains.. .. Particularly the sections titles Clerical Celibacy and After the Great Schism
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priesthood_…Was there a time is history when catholic priests were allowed to be married?
Some are married today. If a married Anglican priest converts, he is allowed to be a married priest. There are dozens in the United States.
After proper examination by his Catholic bishop and with the permission of the Holy Father, he would be then ordained first as a Catholic transitional deacon and then as a priest. If the former Episcopalian minister were single at the time of his ordination as a Catholic deacon and then priest, he would indeed take the vow of celibacy. If the married former Episcopalian minister were ordained as a Catholic deacon and then priest, he would be exempt by a special favor from the Holy Father of making the promise of celibacy; however, if he later became a widower, then he would be bound to a celibate lifestyle and could not remarry.
No ever since St. Paul's time he has taught that priests should remain unmarried and that rule was put into effect and has not changed. During the middle ages there was a truly ';dark age'; and some of the priests and Bishops disobeyed their orders like the few recently---and had children out of wedlock and other things they should have been ashamed of. There have been many married Anglican priests that have petitioned for full Communion and have been welcomed into the fold as a priest and they have been given special dispensations and they can remain married and still be a priest.
And yes, the Eastern Rite priests can be married, but not the Roman Rite Catholic priests unless they have a special dispensation as mentioned
From what I've understood it wasn't really allowed, but it went on. The Church did not stop it. It was considered better to be unmarried and celibate, but it wasn't required.
It has always been thought that it was better for a priest to be celibate and unmarried, like Christ. A married priest was expected to abstain from sex on the night before he celebrated the Eucharist.
But it wasn't that the Church used to think it was okay to be married and now they don't, it was always considered better to be unmarried if you were a priest. Now it is a necessary discipline of the priesthood.
Yes. In fact, most of the early popes were married.
As a matter of fact, there are at least a dozen married men serving as Catholics Priests today. They were Methodist Priests who converted to Catholic.
In the Eastern Catholic Church, n the early 20th Century, married men could and did become Priests. In my time as a Catholic, I had the extreme pleasure to know one of the last married men to become a Catholic Priest. His father was also a Priest, and his son was a Priest for a while. His wife was one of the most sainted ladies I ever knew.
The Eastern Orthodox Church still today allows married men to be ordained Priests. Only celibate men can be elevated to Bishops though. In the Russian Church, the title MATUSHKA refers to the wife of a Priest. She plays an important role in the life of Church, and is often just as respected as her husband. The Church I was baptized in was founded by Fr. Peter, and later was under the Pastorship of his Son Fr. Nick until his retirement.
Married Priests are a good thing, and there should be more of it. As it is only a matter of Faith, someday the Pope, or a future Pope may reverse the decision and allow married Priests again.
Contrary to what some of my fellow Catholics have told you, YES Catholic priests at one time were not held to a vow of celibacy.
I can't remember when it began (I believe some time in the 8th or 9th century), but it began for a few reasons, some of which include freeing the priests of family obligation (thus making them better shepherds) as well as fixing the issue of inheritance rights (among any children of priests).
This of course is only a disciplinary issue and so only priests and bishops of the Roman rite are required to follow it.
Recently, some excpetions have been made for former-Protestant priests who convert to Catholicism AFTER marrying. This requires the approval of the Pope himself though.
As others have stated, Eastern rite Catholic churches have no such celibacy requirement.
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ETA: You were correct in the date (roughly). It was around the 11th century that the Catholic Church deemed clerical marriages not only illicit but also INVALID. Prior to this, clerical marriage was also illicit, but at least considered valid.
It seems that Clerical *continence* (not the abstinence of marriage but the abstinence of SEX) was widely practiced in Christendom since the 1st century.
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Yes.
It took about a thousand years for the Church to become spiritually mature enough to start following the advice and example of Jesus and Paul.
The celibate clergy did not come into full bloom until about 1000 C.E. There were married and celibate priests, bishops, and popes before this time.
Priests, religious brothers and religious sisters (nuns) as part of their vocation choose not to marry following:
+ The practice recommended in the Bible
+ The example of Jesus Christ, John the Baptist, and the Apostle Paul.
+++ Scripture +++
In Matthew 19:12, Jesus says, ';Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so; some, because they were made so by others; some, because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.';
In Matthew 19:29, Jesus says, ';And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands for the sake of my name will receive a hundred times more, and will inherit eternal life.';
Matthew 22:30 - Jesus explains, ';At the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage but are like the angels in heaven.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:1, Paul writes, ';It is a good thing for a man not to touch a woman.';
Then in 1 Corinthians 7:7, Paul says, ';Indeed, I wish everyone to be as I am.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:27, Paul writes, ';Are you free of a wife? Then do not look for a wife.';
In 1 Corinthians 7:32-33, Paul teaches, ';I should like you to be free of anxieties. An unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife.'; And in verse 38, ';So then, the one who marries his virgin does well; the one who does not marry her will do better.';
Paul recommends celibacy for full time ministers in the Church so that they are able to focus entirely upon God and building up His kingdom. He “who refrains from marriage will do better.”
See also 1 Timothy 5:9-12, 2 Timothy 2:3-4, Revevation 14:4, Isaiah 56:3-7, and Jeremiah 16:1-4.
+++ Scriptural Examples +++
Biblical role models of a celibate clergy came from John the Baptist, Jesus, and the Apostle Paul.
John the Baptist and Jesus are both believed to have been celibate for their entire lives. Some scholars believe that the example of the Essenes influenced either or both Jesus and John the Baptist in their celibacy.
WWJD? What would Jesus do? Jesus did not marry.
The Apostle Paul is explicit about his celibacy (see 1 Cor. 7). There is also evidence in the gospel of Matthew for the practice of celibacy among at least some early Christians, in the famous passage about becoming “eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 19:12).
The concept took many twists and turns over the years and will probably take a few more before Christ returns in glory.
A priest is ';married'; to the Church. Some people think that a priest who takes his duties seriously cannot take proper care of a wife and family.
With love in Christ.
The Essenes, the Jewish sect that Joseph and Mary belonged to, practiced celibacy. Being uncommon does not mean being unheard of.
Celibacy had always been with the Church, but it was not a requirement. Bishops could only marry once, but be celibate after their wife died. That is what St. Paul meant when he said that bishops should have one wife. Not should have a wife.
Celibacy is not a doctrine. It never was.
It is a disciple, found primarily in the priests of the Latin or Roman Rite. (the largest) There are 23 rites that are in full communion with the Pope and most of them have married priests.
In the case of a married Protestant minister who becomes Catholic, he could become a married priest. There are many former Anglicans who are ordained Catholic priests in the Roman rite and still have their families.
Jesus and Paul RECOMMEND celibacy for full time ministers of the church. They did not command it. There was never a time when the Church did not have celibates.
The belief and practices always preceed later development and definition. Because something is clarified and the understanding is deepened at a later date does not mean it was something that was invented.
When the Son of God came into the world, He surrounded His Incarnation with the aura of chastity. His mother, He made sure, would miraculously conceive Him without carnal intercourse. She would be a virgin before birth, in birth and after birth, as the Church solemnly teaches. Christ was in the words of the liturgy, flos matrius virginis (the flower of a virgin mother). Indeed, He made sure he was brought up in the virginal family of Mary and Joseph. Christ, further, all through His stay on earth, stayed a virgin. He never married.
During His public life, He showed special love for pure souls, such as the two Johns, the Baptist and the Evangelist. Christ could not have spoken more laudably about anyone than He did about John the Baptist, who, Christian revelation in her Tradition tells us, was a virgin. And the Evangelist, as he modestly admits without identifying himself by name, was the one whom Jesus specially loved.
The great apostle St. Paul, faithful interpreter of the New Law and of the mind of Christ, preached the inestimable value of virginity. In view of the more fervent service of God, and gave the reason when he said, “An unmarried man can devote himself to the Lord’s affairs. All he need worry about is pleasing the Lord” (1 Cor 7:32).
All of this clear revelation of the New Testament had almost inevitable consequences. The priests of the New Covenant felt the heavenly affection of this virtue. They sought to be of the number of those to whom in Christ’s prediction, it is given to take this Word (cf. Matt 19:12). They felt if anyone has the grace as Christ said some would have the grace to remain celibate, surely it ought to be the priests. And from the very beginning, the first century, they spontaneously bound themselves to celibate observance.
This, I think, bears more emphasis than we normally give it. There is so much talk these days about imposition, about constraint, about placing heavy, inhuman obligations. The facts of the case are just the opposite. Priestly celibacy in the Catholic Church began as a voluntary, spontaneous desire on the part of the Church’s priests to follow in the footsteps of Christ. So it came about that the practice in the Latin Church. We see the sanction of ecclesiastical law. I repeat, law followed spontaneous choice, not the other way around. There first were celibate priests, and then wisely and understandably, the Church made laws building on what then had already become part of the Church’s Tradition.
Already in 305 A.D. (that’s very early), before the Church’s liberation under Constantine, the Council of Elvira in Spain passed the following decree: “That bishops, priests and deacons, and in general all the clergy, who are specially employed in the service of the altar, abstain from conjugal intercourse. Let those who persist be degraded from the ranks of the clergy” (Can. 33). And by the end of the fourth century, the Second Council of Carthage in Africa declared, “What the apostles taught in the early Church preserved, let us too observe.” Celibacy, I insist, is not a post factum afterthought of the Church. It is an anti factum, reality, practiced by the Church and wanted by those who wanted to be Christ’s priests.
So the tradition went on. And in the Middle Ages, when the Church in Europe was rocked to her foundations over this law of celibacy, one pontiff after another stood his ground until this law was restore to its original integrity. Behind the Church’s legislation is therefore first of all the revealed fact that the Son of God was a virgin. If a priest is another Christ, it is to be like Christ. It is to portray and preach Christ to the people. Is it not proper that, like his Master, he too should not marry? There is no arguing this point
Yes, currently. Eastern Catholic priests are often married and are part of the ';Catholic'; Church. If they change to the Roman rite, they are accepted as married. The same is true for Anglican priests who re-join the Catholic Church.
Yep.
The practice of preventing Priests to marry was entirely about inheritence--a married priest left his worldly goods to his children. An unmarried priest leaves his worldly possessions to the Chruch.
If you were the Church, which would you prefer?
Not Roman Catholic priests. Only Eastern Catholic priests.
I believe this was one of the issues that spurred the Protestant split from the Roman Catholic Church
Yes, they were allowed to marry. And don't you wish they were allowed to now? Imagine all the little boys that might have been spared from some of the predators amongst them...?
Yes, they can still marry in some eastern orthodox rites.
Peter himself was married.
Marriage is ordained of God. It's part of His plan.
True.
No
no
no never. where did you hear that?
If you file a joint return(married), will each person receive a portion of the tax credit refund?
Or will they issue just one check? Also, will they send the check if you owe taxes and have not paid them yet, or will they deduct the amount from the tax credit check.If you file a joint return(married), will each person receive a portion of the tax credit refund?
No, you'll get one check with both names on it. If you have unpaid taxes, any rebate will be applied to them first. If anything is left after the offset you'll get the difference. If the rebate is not enough to pay off the entire debt then you'll get no rebate at all.If you file a joint return(married), will each person receive a portion of the tax credit refund?
1 return = 1 check.
If you owe (and if you owe you pay interest and penalties until the amount is paid in full), the rebate will be used to pay off any tax owed.
The penalties and interest are 12%-18%. My bank doesn't pay that much.
Only one tax stimulus check will come. Rebates will be sent out as you file for the 2007 tax returns. No rebate unless you file federal tax return, and if you owe, you have to send in your payment with that tax return, therefore the rebate will not apply toward what you owe.
No, you'll get one check with both names on it. If you have unpaid taxes, any rebate will be applied to them first. If anything is left after the offset you'll get the difference. If the rebate is not enough to pay off the entire debt then you'll get no rebate at all.If you file a joint return(married), will each person receive a portion of the tax credit refund?
1 return = 1 check.
If you owe (and if you owe you pay interest and penalties until the amount is paid in full), the rebate will be used to pay off any tax owed.
The penalties and interest are 12%-18%. My bank doesn't pay that much.
Only one tax stimulus check will come. Rebates will be sent out as you file for the 2007 tax returns. No rebate unless you file federal tax return, and if you owe, you have to send in your payment with that tax return, therefore the rebate will not apply toward what you owe.
What Would You Suggest For A Married Couple Who Are Both Sexually Submissive/Passive?
Both sexually submissive, but enjoy sex, and want the other to initiate sex more often, (initiating about 90% of the time). As well as direct what's going on, as far a positions and stuff. What would you suggest for them, so that they both are equally happy with the sexual part of their marriage?What Would You Suggest For A Married Couple Who Are Both Sexually Submissive/Passive?
Both partners should learn to be a 'switch'. Therefore one can be dominant sometimes, then be dominated another time. The big issue I see is with one person initiating sex more often than the other. Hard to find a way to balance that.
Also, setting little sex dates with each other (Honey, I'll be home from work at 6.30. Be naked.) can be fun and hot. Not to mention the anticipation that will build throughout the day!
Good luck!What Would You Suggest For A Married Couple Who Are Both Sexually Submissive/Passive?
Well, this is a good one :)
First off, usually one person is submissive and their s/o is dominate. This helps to keep balance in their sex life. I would think that two submissive people would have frustrating experiences with sex. The two would have to compromise and step out of their comfort zones from time-to-time to turn dominate of the other. Otherwise, neither one of them will initiate sex.
I'm sorry I don't have an answer for you but I have to say that I'm glad that I'm not the only one in this situation. It's been the topic of several arguments between my husband and Ime, and lately things seem to be getting worse. I wish I knew the answer because it's causing much strain in our marriage and is now affecting not only our sexual intimacy but every part of our marriage.
I would suggest that they need some spontaneous sex. It doesn't really matter who initiates it. However my fiance surprises me from time to time (I usually initiate) by having a xxx movie playing on the dvd player when i get home. I'd suggest trying something like that. Or take your spouse to a strip club. The first time we went as a couple, one of the girls told us that couples that go to them either go home and fight or f*ck.
If worst comes to worst just be more dominant. Both sides can be fun. It's just your mindset that makes one better than the other. If your being dominant you can generally get away with more dirty talk and telling your partner what you want them to do.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
Just have to take turns on top or whatever. Sometimes roll-playing is useful, for example, he brings a tray of food wearing only a t-shirt, and is thus submissive to her who is turned on by thinking just lift that a little and then (another time) she is the waitress in T-shirt.... You get the idea.
Just take turns. I believe that this kind of sex life is healthy and can be rewarding. You take the charge one night and follow the next. It's good that you're both open to this, that's not common.
Lay in some random person's back yard, and chant nonsense words to the the sky.
Then go have sexual intercourse in a plastic outhouse. Make sure its not a metal one.
talk to each other, see what you guys like, do as much of that as you can, and you will have it great. please pick me for best answer. cassybrent@ymail.com
Submissive and passive are two ENTIRELY different things.
I suggest they learn to speak up.
Take turns ;)
Both partners should learn to be a 'switch'. Therefore one can be dominant sometimes, then be dominated another time. The big issue I see is with one person initiating sex more often than the other. Hard to find a way to balance that.
Also, setting little sex dates with each other (Honey, I'll be home from work at 6.30. Be naked.) can be fun and hot. Not to mention the anticipation that will build throughout the day!
Good luck!What Would You Suggest For A Married Couple Who Are Both Sexually Submissive/Passive?
Well, this is a good one :)
First off, usually one person is submissive and their s/o is dominate. This helps to keep balance in their sex life. I would think that two submissive people would have frustrating experiences with sex. The two would have to compromise and step out of their comfort zones from time-to-time to turn dominate of the other. Otherwise, neither one of them will initiate sex.
I'm sorry I don't have an answer for you but I have to say that I'm glad that I'm not the only one in this situation. It's been the topic of several arguments between my husband and Ime, and lately things seem to be getting worse. I wish I knew the answer because it's causing much strain in our marriage and is now affecting not only our sexual intimacy but every part of our marriage.
I would suggest that they need some spontaneous sex. It doesn't really matter who initiates it. However my fiance surprises me from time to time (I usually initiate) by having a xxx movie playing on the dvd player when i get home. I'd suggest trying something like that. Or take your spouse to a strip club. The first time we went as a couple, one of the girls told us that couples that go to them either go home and fight or f*ck.
If worst comes to worst just be more dominant. Both sides can be fun. It's just your mindset that makes one better than the other. If your being dominant you can generally get away with more dirty talk and telling your partner what you want them to do.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
Just have to take turns on top or whatever. Sometimes roll-playing is useful, for example, he brings a tray of food wearing only a t-shirt, and is thus submissive to her who is turned on by thinking just lift that a little and then (another time) she is the waitress in T-shirt.... You get the idea.
Just take turns. I believe that this kind of sex life is healthy and can be rewarding. You take the charge one night and follow the next. It's good that you're both open to this, that's not common.
Lay in some random person's back yard, and chant nonsense words to the the sky.
Then go have sexual intercourse in a plastic outhouse. Make sure its not a metal one.
talk to each other, see what you guys like, do as much of that as you can, and you will have it great. please pick me for best answer. cassybrent@ymail.com
Submissive and passive are two ENTIRELY different things.
I suggest they learn to speak up.
Take turns ;)
What are the cheapest months to get married?
I just got engaged and we are planning on getting married in either North Carolina or New Jersey. What are the cheapest months to marry in both of those states?What are the cheapest months to get married?
December Thru January because of the weather....What are the cheapest months to get married?
my sister got married first week in janusary years ago......like 2 days after new years.....there where discounts.......
It costs the same no matter what month you get married in if you visit a courthouse and get married by a justice of the peace ! As for the honeymoon... visit the beach in the winter and Vegas in mid August for cheap accommodations !
January
The halls have no holiday parties and lots of openings where it's either you or an empty room. The same with all the other vendors.
Take it from someone in the industry.
Another thing that saves money if you can put this together in 2 1/2 or 3 months. It's that same thing the halls are feeling... like it's so close to the date that it's you or an empty room. You'll have to scout a bunch of places But if you do this in July you may get a nice October date, or in May for July even then if nothing you like comes up there's always the winter to fall back on.
honestly, Feburary is a cheap month, especially if you do a civil service.(court house type thing) Instead of a court house wedding they usually pick a nice place, something historical, mine was at a mansion, and then have weddings all day,( on valentines day.) you can have as many people as you want usually and pick areas, like in doors, outdoors, certain rooms things like that, and mine included the manison, minister, and the liscence for $75 (tell me were you can get that) then you can use more money for a reception where you control the prices of things. and use more money on your flowers dress, whatever! a honeymoon?
January through April in the south. Not sure about New Jersey.
But, if you want a deal, pick a friday night or a Sunday for your wedding and reception. Alot of places give discounts on these days even during a peak month like june!
December-March, usually.
Dec.-April would be your best bests. Also, having your wedding on a Friday is cheaper than a Saturday or a Sunday.
I don't think it matters which country you get married in, generally the winter months are the cheapest. Most weddings happen in the summer months - probably because us women want to wear slinky shear dresses and that's difficult to do in winter!
January, March, October, November
December-March probably because its soo cold!
the place im getting married is November - March
april is a little more expensive than nov-mar but still way cheaper than may-october!
June July and August being the highest months
December Thru January because of the weather....What are the cheapest months to get married?
my sister got married first week in janusary years ago......like 2 days after new years.....there where discounts.......
It costs the same no matter what month you get married in if you visit a courthouse and get married by a justice of the peace ! As for the honeymoon... visit the beach in the winter and Vegas in mid August for cheap accommodations !
January
The halls have no holiday parties and lots of openings where it's either you or an empty room. The same with all the other vendors.
Take it from someone in the industry.
Another thing that saves money if you can put this together in 2 1/2 or 3 months. It's that same thing the halls are feeling... like it's so close to the date that it's you or an empty room. You'll have to scout a bunch of places But if you do this in July you may get a nice October date, or in May for July even then if nothing you like comes up there's always the winter to fall back on.
honestly, Feburary is a cheap month, especially if you do a civil service.(court house type thing) Instead of a court house wedding they usually pick a nice place, something historical, mine was at a mansion, and then have weddings all day,( on valentines day.) you can have as many people as you want usually and pick areas, like in doors, outdoors, certain rooms things like that, and mine included the manison, minister, and the liscence for $75 (tell me were you can get that) then you can use more money for a reception where you control the prices of things. and use more money on your flowers dress, whatever! a honeymoon?
January through April in the south. Not sure about New Jersey.
But, if you want a deal, pick a friday night or a Sunday for your wedding and reception. Alot of places give discounts on these days even during a peak month like june!
December-March, usually.
Dec.-April would be your best bests. Also, having your wedding on a Friday is cheaper than a Saturday or a Sunday.
I don't think it matters which country you get married in, generally the winter months are the cheapest. Most weddings happen in the summer months - probably because us women want to wear slinky shear dresses and that's difficult to do in winter!
January, March, October, November
December-March probably because its soo cold!
the place im getting married is November - March
april is a little more expensive than nov-mar but still way cheaper than may-october!
June July and August being the highest months
Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork , we are planning to get married, what would be beneficial to get married in India or Newyork, is there any benefit for our future generation to come?Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
Since this question has been asked under the category of Law %26amp; Ethics this is for the legal aspect of the marriage %26amp; so I reply it. The Marriage in India is either according to Religious form or the civil form. The former religious form marriage is most in demand %26amp; happening. The most important legal aspect of the religious marriage is based on its proper registration under the Act applicable to the parties to the marriage, e.g. for Hindu the Hindu form of marriage can be registered under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 or under the Local State Act applicable to the registration of any religion marriage which was solemnized in the district/state or under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 (civil Marriage enactment). The reason for registration of marriage is multipurpose such as, as proof of marriage between the parties in the form of Valid Marriage certificate the parties get after the registration process, to give Indian civil matrimonial courts jurisdiction to adjudicate for any matrimonial dispute in future between the parties, to get necessary changes made in the passport with regard to marital status, addition of the name of spouse etc %26amp; most important the immigration of the Indian/Alien Spouse to the foreign country as well getting the foreigner spouse Indian citizen or similar privileges as Person of Indian Origin Card (PIO card). The foreigner who get married in India with Indian citizen are advised to get their Indian marriage properly registered to avoid any legal impediment in future while dealing with various government departments/official concerning the marriage in India or any foreign country, for this a qualified %26amp; expert lawyer should be engaged who gets these legal formalities done in proper manner. I have seen in many cases the quality of Mumbai lawyers who have been indulging in wrong practice of not getting the marriage registered properly %26amp; creating problem later on for the parties. The foreigner who gets married in India should also get their Indian Marriage properly Registered with their country's Matrimonial Laws so that they can get benefits concerning their marriage in their country without any legal impediment. Their country's civil matrimonial court gets jurisdiction to adjudicate in case of any matrimonial dispute between the parties. As far the future generation borne out of the marriage is concerned there is no legal issue involved as the citizen of the children so borne will depend on their place of birth as well their parent鈥檚 choice.Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
If at all, still, both, hold, Indian Passports, then, it is better to get married at Indian soil and to collect the marriage certificate from here and to get it notified in both's passports here in India.
Get married where ever you are planning to live permanently, make sure you are over age.
New York may be a place where you and your children might have a better oportunity to have a better life.
Lic.Gregory Kearney Lawson.
Does not make any difference.
it dont matter where you maary, its legal regardless if u get married here or there
get married mumbai, which is charming and safe ,, girl may be of ny.
Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork , we are planning to get married, what would be beneficial to get married in India or Newyork, is there any benefit for our future generation to come?Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
Since this question has been asked under the category of Law %26amp; Ethics this is for the legal aspect of the marriage %26amp; so I reply it. The Marriage in India is either according to Religious form or the civil form. The former religious form marriage is most in demand %26amp; happening. The most important legal aspect of the religious marriage is based on its proper registration under the Act applicable to the parties to the marriage, e.g. for Hindu the Hindu form of marriage can be registered under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 or under the Local State Act applicable to the registration of any religion marriage which was solemnized in the district/state or under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 (civil Marriage enactment). The reason for registration of marriage is multipurpose such as, as proof of marriage between the parties in the form of Valid Marriage certificate the parties get after the registration process, to give Indian civil matrimonial courts jurisdiction to adjudicate for any matrimonial dispute in future between the parties, to get necessary changes made in the passport with regard to marital status, addition of the name of spouse etc %26amp; most important the immigration of the Indian/Alien Spouse to the foreign country as well getting the foreigner spouse Indian citizen or similar privileges as Person of Indian Origin Card (PIO card). The foreigner who get married in India with Indian citizen are advised to get their Indian marriage properly registered to avoid any legal impediment in future while dealing with various government departments/official concerning the marriage in India or any foreign country, for this a qualified %26amp; expert lawyer should be engaged who gets these legal formalities done in proper manner. I have seen in many cases the quality of Mumbai lawyers who have been indulging in wrong practice of not getting the marriage registered properly %26amp; creating problem later on for the parties. The foreigner who gets married in India should also get their Indian Marriage properly Registered with their country's Matrimonial Laws so that they can get benefits concerning their marriage in their country without any legal impediment. Their country's civil matrimonial court gets jurisdiction to adjudicate in case of any matrimonial dispute between the parties. As far the future generation borne out of the marriage is concerned there is no legal issue involved as the citizen of the children so borne will depend on their place of birth as well their parent鈥檚 choice.Boy and Girl is from India and staying in Newyork, it is advisable to get married in Newyork or Mumbai?
If at all, still, both, hold, Indian Passports, then, it is better to get married at Indian soil and to collect the marriage certificate from here and to get it notified in both's passports here in India.
Get married where ever you are planning to live permanently, make sure you are over age.
New York may be a place where you and your children might have a better oportunity to have a better life.
Lic.Gregory Kearney Lawson.
Does not make any difference.
it dont matter where you maary, its legal regardless if u get married here or there
get married mumbai, which is charming and safe ,, girl may be of ny.
Why do some people say that getting married in your early 20s is too young?
I don't think getting married under 25 is too young. Statistics show that most women are married by 24 or 25 and that people who marry between the ages of 22-25 have the happiest marriages and the lowest divorce rates. I think the early twenties is the perfect age to get married.Why do some people say that getting married in your early 20s is too young?
The people who say that, are the ones who married the wrong person.Why do some people say that getting married in your early 20s is too young?
got hitched at 24....8 yrs later we're still truckin'
So who's saying otherwise?
dont listen to them its up to you
Statistically, marriages are more likely to fail before the age of 25.
Also, in your 20s you are finally asserting your independence and grow and change as a person. You establish goals and desires that may not be compatable with those of your partner. If you get married young you may not fully know yourself or miss out on opportunities as you are constricted by your partner.
Maturity also plays a big role as well.
Life experience - you may not know what you really want at a young age as you have not dated enough or gained enough relationship experience.
cant argue with someone who is ignorant to nationwide statistics.
just wait for that person to become a statistic when they get to divorced.
People say that because you still have a lot of growing to do at that age and the two of you will likely grow apart.
But the thing about it is, we're ALWAYS growing! True, you are different at 25 than you were at 15, and different at 35 than you were at 25, but aren't you different at 55 than you were at 45 and so on? Yes. So when IS the right time?
Things that make you go hmmmm...
I think as long as you are mature enough and get married fro all the right reasons age doesn't really matter I was married at 20 and now 45 and still married 25 yrs later marriage is what 2 people make it.
I agree. Will you marry me?
I think some folks think people in their early 20s don't really know who they are yet, does that make sense? Like haven't established their careers or whatever. And some think it's dangerous/irresponsible to be in that kind of a partnership before they've really dug their own paths.
It really depends on IF you've done a good bit of dating BEFORE you get married period. I feel if you haven't, then get married too young, the chances of the marriage aren't going to last. You honestly do need to know if you do have the rite person or not, %26amp; you're not going to know unless you've had enuf dating experience prior to getting married. I can speak for myself, getting engaged at 17, then married 2 wks. after I turned 19. I didn't go w/anyone else but 1 person %26amp; I only dated him twice. I found we made a mistake 4 yrs. after getting married %26amp; 2 children later. And NO, I did not ';have'; to get married. I find that's the biggest mistake is to make sure you know you do have the rite one before making it ';permanent';. It's too easy to get marred, but a heck of a lot harder to get a divorce...best to you...:)
Young people in their 20s are not mature enough to always deal with the difficult issues that arise in a marriage. Their patience is also not fully developed. Also, a man and woman should both have dated others before choosing the special person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
Many couples in their 20s have children and then realize they did not have enough time together before the children came along. Being a family is expensive and requires all of your attention and love. This is not saying it could work out, its just better to wait. If you are in your 20s and asking this, its because you are not experienced at what it takes to make it work.
Do you read any of these postings???????? Do you???
All most all of the people who are cheaters, lie to their partners and have unwed babies due to irresponsible sex are uncertain about what they want to do with their lives (still in college, living at home) are in their 20's. Women are fickle in their 20's, men have extremely high libidos and can't be trusted in their 20's. The best time to marry is in your 30's or 40's. Careers are in place, college is out of the way. Wisdom is more in place.
Worked for me.
For the same reason Car Insurance companies knew when people matured long before anyone else did, based on who was having the most accidents. Most people do not adequately mature until around 25. It doesn't happen on your birthday, but in that neighborhood, a person's brain does something that is also beneficial for such things as marriage.
Any one really younger than that is only flying by the seat of their pants, full of righteous indignation, and steeped on high ideals. That's all great, and many can make that fly for a long time, but it doesn't get most marriages though the dark cold nights of bitter anger and sheer loathing of a cheating partner, or maybe even a financially irresponsible partner piling debt on faster than the country, maybe even a addictive/abusive personality and I am not even talking about hidden personality defects or mental issues covered in one's youth that is seen as something playful or merely colorful at earlier eager ages.
Actually the statistics point to an older more educated couple making, more than any other couple top to bottom. Not rich, not poor, not middle class people, but generally older and worldly. People who actually know why they are doing it, and not doing it for reasons that 'Just feel right.' They have logical reasoning, and have been around the block with many relationships, thin and thick to know precisely how to handle all situations, particularly the ones that seem insurpassable.
All this stuff about having to have dated more people, have a set career path, blah blah blah is nothing but a bunch of crap. I met my husband when he was 17 and I was 19. We've been together ever since. We got married when he was 22 and I had just turned 25. We only waited that long b/c his family kept going on about how young we were (mine didn't....my family all get married,and STAY married, in their late teens and early twenties) Honestly I look at it this way...you know what you want. If you find who you want to be with then why do you need to keep looking/dating? And the careers you can and will work on throughout your life so why not have the person that you love by your side? I just don't get why you have to be alone/playing the field while you work on yourself. That's just ridiculous. And if everyone waited for everything in life to be just perfect circumstances then no one would ever get married or have kids b/c let's face it...timing is never ';perfect';....It's usually just pretty damn good.
On a side note, looking at my friends who waited to get married vs those of us that just went ahead and got married, the younger ones are staying married and the older ones are drowning their sorrows at their bars waiting on the divorces to be final. (That is almost w/out exception too)
Its the characteristic of the each person in the relationship. It's not the age that determines the marriage but rather the choices you make and your partner. Know matter what age you are when you marry it's work to keep it together.
it is too young...mineral foundation
The people who say that, are the ones who married the wrong person.Why do some people say that getting married in your early 20s is too young?
got hitched at 24....8 yrs later we're still truckin'
So who's saying otherwise?
dont listen to them its up to you
Statistically, marriages are more likely to fail before the age of 25.
Also, in your 20s you are finally asserting your independence and grow and change as a person. You establish goals and desires that may not be compatable with those of your partner. If you get married young you may not fully know yourself or miss out on opportunities as you are constricted by your partner.
Maturity also plays a big role as well.
Life experience - you may not know what you really want at a young age as you have not dated enough or gained enough relationship experience.
cant argue with someone who is ignorant to nationwide statistics.
just wait for that person to become a statistic when they get to divorced.
People say that because you still have a lot of growing to do at that age and the two of you will likely grow apart.
But the thing about it is, we're ALWAYS growing! True, you are different at 25 than you were at 15, and different at 35 than you were at 25, but aren't you different at 55 than you were at 45 and so on? Yes. So when IS the right time?
Things that make you go hmmmm...
I think as long as you are mature enough and get married fro all the right reasons age doesn't really matter I was married at 20 and now 45 and still married 25 yrs later marriage is what 2 people make it.
I agree. Will you marry me?
I think some folks think people in their early 20s don't really know who they are yet, does that make sense? Like haven't established their careers or whatever. And some think it's dangerous/irresponsible to be in that kind of a partnership before they've really dug their own paths.
It really depends on IF you've done a good bit of dating BEFORE you get married period. I feel if you haven't, then get married too young, the chances of the marriage aren't going to last. You honestly do need to know if you do have the rite person or not, %26amp; you're not going to know unless you've had enuf dating experience prior to getting married. I can speak for myself, getting engaged at 17, then married 2 wks. after I turned 19. I didn't go w/anyone else but 1 person %26amp; I only dated him twice. I found we made a mistake 4 yrs. after getting married %26amp; 2 children later. And NO, I did not ';have'; to get married. I find that's the biggest mistake is to make sure you know you do have the rite one before making it ';permanent';. It's too easy to get marred, but a heck of a lot harder to get a divorce...best to you...:)
Young people in their 20s are not mature enough to always deal with the difficult issues that arise in a marriage. Their patience is also not fully developed. Also, a man and woman should both have dated others before choosing the special person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
Many couples in their 20s have children and then realize they did not have enough time together before the children came along. Being a family is expensive and requires all of your attention and love. This is not saying it could work out, its just better to wait. If you are in your 20s and asking this, its because you are not experienced at what it takes to make it work.
Do you read any of these postings???????? Do you???
All most all of the people who are cheaters, lie to their partners and have unwed babies due to irresponsible sex are uncertain about what they want to do with their lives (still in college, living at home) are in their 20's. Women are fickle in their 20's, men have extremely high libidos and can't be trusted in their 20's. The best time to marry is in your 30's or 40's. Careers are in place, college is out of the way. Wisdom is more in place.
Worked for me.
For the same reason Car Insurance companies knew when people matured long before anyone else did, based on who was having the most accidents. Most people do not adequately mature until around 25. It doesn't happen on your birthday, but in that neighborhood, a person's brain does something that is also beneficial for such things as marriage.
Any one really younger than that is only flying by the seat of their pants, full of righteous indignation, and steeped on high ideals. That's all great, and many can make that fly for a long time, but it doesn't get most marriages though the dark cold nights of bitter anger and sheer loathing of a cheating partner, or maybe even a financially irresponsible partner piling debt on faster than the country, maybe even a addictive/abusive personality and I am not even talking about hidden personality defects or mental issues covered in one's youth that is seen as something playful or merely colorful at earlier eager ages.
Actually the statistics point to an older more educated couple making, more than any other couple top to bottom. Not rich, not poor, not middle class people, but generally older and worldly. People who actually know why they are doing it, and not doing it for reasons that 'Just feel right.' They have logical reasoning, and have been around the block with many relationships, thin and thick to know precisely how to handle all situations, particularly the ones that seem insurpassable.
All this stuff about having to have dated more people, have a set career path, blah blah blah is nothing but a bunch of crap. I met my husband when he was 17 and I was 19. We've been together ever since. We got married when he was 22 and I had just turned 25. We only waited that long b/c his family kept going on about how young we were (mine didn't....my family all get married,and STAY married, in their late teens and early twenties) Honestly I look at it this way...you know what you want. If you find who you want to be with then why do you need to keep looking/dating? And the careers you can and will work on throughout your life so why not have the person that you love by your side? I just don't get why you have to be alone/playing the field while you work on yourself. That's just ridiculous. And if everyone waited for everything in life to be just perfect circumstances then no one would ever get married or have kids b/c let's face it...timing is never ';perfect';....It's usually just pretty damn good.
On a side note, looking at my friends who waited to get married vs those of us that just went ahead and got married, the younger ones are staying married and the older ones are drowning their sorrows at their bars waiting on the divorces to be final. (That is almost w/out exception too)
Its the characteristic of the each person in the relationship. It's not the age that determines the marriage but rather the choices you make and your partner. Know matter what age you are when you marry it's work to keep it together.
it is too young...
Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
As opposed to single men? And by ';married men'; I don't mean their husbands.
I would like to hear what married women have to say about this.Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
OK, here goes. As a married woman, I do get some action outside of my marriage, and single men can become possessive, and that's not what it's all about if you're going outside the confines of marriage for action. Married men have a lot more to loose, so they are more discreet, and they understand what the rules are. You're not expected to stay with them all night, both parties realize that there are time constraints, and falling in love with each other is out of the question.Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
Ha, Candice....they are predicatable, aren't they?
I personally don't fool around outside my marriage, but obviously the question is not a poll of whether or not we are cheating. The question is, for those who fool around, do they seek out married men as opposed to single men.
Women cheat for different reasons than men, I think.
Some women are afraid to be alone. Instead of leaving the one they're with...they will cheat with the intent of finding another mate. In that case I think they'd be looking for single and available.
If they're cheating for the attention/sex, but really do want to remain married to their spouse, I think a married guy would be a safer bet.
i love to fool around with a particular married man everyday i can!it is my husband!!we can role play and become a different person each time we do it too.that keeps it spicy and fun!!every married woman should do it.and the women who cheat need to fool around with their own husbands or bf,not another woman's
For a married woman, a married man would be better to have an affair with because then you both have something to lose, and he's not going to be very likely to say anything or tell anybody, due to the fact that he wouldn't want his wife to find out!
Well I can't speak for all married women, but I know I prefer to fool around with my own husband and not someone else's.
I disagree.
No, I would never want to be the other woman, I have more respect for myself than that.
No at least not where I come from marriage means something. I would not disrespect my self or my husband like that
are you nuts? ill stick with MY OWN HUSBAND.
it is all individual. I would never want to sleep with any man but my husband..
I would like to hear what married women have to say about this.Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
OK, here goes. As a married woman, I do get some action outside of my marriage, and single men can become possessive, and that's not what it's all about if you're going outside the confines of marriage for action. Married men have a lot more to loose, so they are more discreet, and they understand what the rules are. You're not expected to stay with them all night, both parties realize that there are time constraints, and falling in love with each other is out of the question.Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
Ha, Candice....they are predicatable, aren't they?
I personally don't fool around outside my marriage, but obviously the question is not a poll of whether or not we are cheating. The question is, for those who fool around, do they seek out married men as opposed to single men.
Women cheat for different reasons than men, I think.
Some women are afraid to be alone. Instead of leaving the one they're with...they will cheat with the intent of finding another mate. In that case I think they'd be looking for single and available.
If they're cheating for the attention/sex, but really do want to remain married to their spouse, I think a married guy would be a safer bet.
i love to fool around with a particular married man everyday i can!it is my husband!!we can role play and become a different person each time we do it too.that keeps it spicy and fun!!every married woman should do it.and the women who cheat need to fool around with their own husbands or bf,not another woman's
For a married woman, a married man would be better to have an affair with because then you both have something to lose, and he's not going to be very likely to say anything or tell anybody, due to the fact that he wouldn't want his wife to find out!
Well I can't speak for all married women, but I know I prefer to fool around with my own husband and not someone else's.
I disagree.
No, I would never want to be the other woman, I have more respect for myself than that.
No at least not where I come from marriage means something. I would not disrespect my self or my husband like that
are you nuts? ill stick with MY OWN HUSBAND.
it is all individual. I would never want to sleep with any man but my husband..
How long after you realized you were ready to settle down did you get married?
how long was it?, how did you know you were ready, ect.How long after you realized you were ready to settle down did you get married?
I suspected he was my husband by the fourth date based on our commonalities and shared values.
I had not at the point kissed him was fearful too-because if there was no chemistry a bummer.
So i dodged everyone to get past the newness/excitement a bit longer.
He proposed 6 months from our first meeting.
We were married just 2 weeks shy of our 1 year anniversary of first meeting.
My opinion is there is no rhyme or reason-some date years and some just months.
My husbands' 2 cents is if you analyze think about it too much they are not the one. The steps progress naturally when you found the one.,
Good luckHow long after you realized you were ready to settle down did you get married?
I am a woman who was affraid of committment. It took me thirteen years and four kids later to marry my husband. Now we just had a baby girl three weeks ago. I love him but I was just affraid of committment too many people I knew were getting cheated on by their husbands and my dad was a whore and married. Cheated a lot did he? Yes and it impacted my life. But I am glad I came to my senses. I have been with hubby for fifteen years and married two this year. I met him when I was 15 and he was 17 and have been together every since.
My boobies started to sag and my gut touched the ground. I said to myself, ';Nelly bells, you're so old, even God wouldn't touch you so you might as well marry the old smelly fart you're with.'; You know it's time to marry when you start putting your teeth in a cup every night. That's my motto!
she threated to leave me after 6 faithful years. (well as far as she knew).... so I scrambled all my money I could get... thousands of dollars... and bought her the ring.. I guess she thought I owed it to her for all those yars of sex.
Just over a decade.. n we're still married...
Whatever you do, don't blackmail you boyfriend.. that's low.
I suspected he was my husband by the fourth date based on our commonalities and shared values.
I had not at the point kissed him was fearful too-because if there was no chemistry a bummer.
So i dodged everyone to get past the newness/excitement a bit longer.
He proposed 6 months from our first meeting.
We were married just 2 weeks shy of our 1 year anniversary of first meeting.
My opinion is there is no rhyme or reason-some date years and some just months.
My husbands' 2 cents is if you analyze think about it too much they are not the one. The steps progress naturally when you found the one.,
Good luckHow long after you realized you were ready to settle down did you get married?
I am a woman who was affraid of committment. It took me thirteen years and four kids later to marry my husband. Now we just had a baby girl three weeks ago. I love him but I was just affraid of committment too many people I knew were getting cheated on by their husbands and my dad was a whore and married. Cheated a lot did he? Yes and it impacted my life. But I am glad I came to my senses. I have been with hubby for fifteen years and married two this year. I met him when I was 15 and he was 17 and have been together every since.
My boobies started to sag and my gut touched the ground. I said to myself, ';Nelly bells, you're so old, even God wouldn't touch you so you might as well marry the old smelly fart you're with.'; You know it's time to marry when you start putting your teeth in a cup every night. That's my motto!
she threated to leave me after 6 faithful years. (well as far as she knew).... so I scrambled all my money I could get... thousands of dollars... and bought her the ring.. I guess she thought I owed it to her for all those yars of sex.
Just over a decade.. n we're still married...
Whatever you do, don't blackmail you boyfriend.. that's low.
What does it look like when a man in his 30s is ready to get married?
What does it look like when a man in his mid30s is ready to get married? Say he's never been married before. Any signs or clues?What does it look like when a man in his 30s is ready to get married?
He's either mature enough to wait until he's found someone that he's not settling with or he has mental issues that no woman will tolerate.What does it look like when a man in his 30s is ready to get married?
Ok..so he's standing at the altar, probably with a tux on. His hair is cut nice and he probably smells really good too. His ex-wife is probably in one of the pews. (oh...sorry. took the the question literally ...NOT!!!) He looks like every other 30 year old man! If your going to marry him...trust him.
It doesn't mean anything.
The 30's is a perfect age to get married.
It means that most likely, he is ready for what comes with marriage.
You got me there. I guess its just the way he feels, he would probably try to set an environment to try to propose maybe.
they just look like a man in their 30s that,s all. they don,t look like any different then any other man.
My dad got married at 36*
What does look like? What is it?
He's either mature enough to wait until he's found someone that he's not settling with or he has mental issues that no woman will tolerate.What does it look like when a man in his 30s is ready to get married?
Ok..so he's standing at the altar, probably with a tux on. His hair is cut nice and he probably smells really good too. His ex-wife is probably in one of the pews. (oh...sorry. took the the question literally ...NOT!!!) He looks like every other 30 year old man! If your going to marry him...trust him.
It doesn't mean anything.
The 30's is a perfect age to get married.
It means that most likely, he is ready for what comes with marriage.
You got me there. I guess its just the way he feels, he would probably try to set an environment to try to propose maybe.
they just look like a man in their 30s that,s all. they don,t look like any different then any other man.
My dad got married at 36*
What does look like? What is it?
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What can I do to get this man all to myself? He's gay and he loves having wet and wild sex but has lover/partner.Were 100 miles apart.What tod do next need help with Married gay man?
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What is the point of people getting married when right after one of the spouses cheats?
I've been going through all these questions, and so many spouses seem to cheat on the other. Marriage is more serious then just dating. I just don't understand. I guess its that whole ';have your cake and eat it to';. If you cheated on your spouse, why? and how did it make you feel in the end? I just don't see the point in cheating, it's so disrespectful on all levels. if you're unhappy for a long period of time, get a separation or do something to fix it.What is the point of people getting married when right after one of the spouses cheats?
the real problem is a serious lack of';communication'; if there is a problem put it on the table for discussion...if a couple can't seem to get their point across get a councilor to sit in to smooth thing out. i dont know i think other people dont have respect for marriages these days...people know others are married and would still try to date or have casual sex with married people...thats the problem. i go to clubs and for guys to back off i tell them i am married..u think that line works? NOPE they still try their luckWhat is the point of people getting married when right after one of the spouses cheats?
Are you married or have you ever been married? There are so many different circumstances that play into an affair. None justify cheating but things happen. The hurt and pain it causes. Get a separation or just fix it sounds so easy but there is more involved then that. Most of this mess occurs from couples getting married to young and learn later they have nothing in common. If you don't ever take a chance on marriage with someone you feel is your soul mate for this reason then your going to be the one losing out.
I don't get it either. I've come to the conclusion that most people are a) selfish b) stupid c) not naturally monogamous, yet foolishly try and force themselves into it
as well as d) marriage isn't a great idea
Oh yeah, and most people are massively in love when they get married, and they think ';but MY spouse would never do that'; (except for the ones whose partner cheated during the engagement, and they're just dumb to go ahead with the marriage)
I agree with u on that - some people have their priorities in the wrong place and some people get caught up in a weak moment - and its up to the spouse to 4give - but most people again as you said that many people want their cake and eat it
Everyone isn't that disgusting, though. Sure there are plenty, but not all marriages are like that. For the ones who do it--well, they're trash.
the real problem is a serious lack of';communication'; if there is a problem put it on the table for discussion...if a couple can't seem to get their point across get a councilor to sit in to smooth thing out. i dont know i think other people dont have respect for marriages these days...people know others are married and would still try to date or have casual sex with married people...thats the problem. i go to clubs and for guys to back off i tell them i am married..u think that line works? NOPE they still try their luckWhat is the point of people getting married when right after one of the spouses cheats?
Are you married or have you ever been married? There are so many different circumstances that play into an affair. None justify cheating but things happen. The hurt and pain it causes. Get a separation or just fix it sounds so easy but there is more involved then that. Most of this mess occurs from couples getting married to young and learn later they have nothing in common. If you don't ever take a chance on marriage with someone you feel is your soul mate for this reason then your going to be the one losing out.
I don't get it either. I've come to the conclusion that most people are a) selfish b) stupid c) not naturally monogamous, yet foolishly try and force themselves into it
as well as d) marriage isn't a great idea
Oh yeah, and most people are massively in love when they get married, and they think ';but MY spouse would never do that'; (except for the ones whose partner cheated during the engagement, and they're just dumb to go ahead with the marriage)
I agree with u on that - some people have their priorities in the wrong place and some people get caught up in a weak moment - and its up to the spouse to 4give - but most people again as you said that many people want their cake and eat it
Everyone isn't that disgusting, though. Sure there are plenty, but not all marriages are like that. For the ones who do it--well, they're trash.
What are your expectations from baby father if not married or living together?
If you had a baby with someone what would you expect him to do for you and your child? Lets say you are in a relationship and you live in separate homes (not married) and the baby lives with the mother. Please tell me what you think a man should do for you and the baby. Father makes 6 digit salary and mother makes 1/2 of what he makes. Just curious to know if i was asking too much from my boyfriend.What are your expectations from baby father if not married or living together?
When I fell pregnant, me and my partner were not living together, I did tell him that when the baby was born he would be moving in. I didn't see why I should to left to care for a newborn by myself. Especially as we are both 1st time parents. For me personally having him move in was a little bit of a mistake, he was not working and was not contributing towards caring for the house or house hold bills. I think you should think very hard before making such a commitment. Living with your partner is a serious commitment, and having a baby is stress enough. In you case i think if he is earning such good money, he should be taking care of you completely, he can afford it!!What are your expectations from baby father if not married or living together?
The expectations don't change regardless of if you're married or not. Once you get pregnant, it is all about the baby. You need to commit to it and make sure your child has a proper upbringing. It is a real shame that so many people these days do a crappy job of this. The kid has no choice in the matter, and you can't take it out on him. Even if it was an accident, you need to change your priorities and make it all about the kid. The father and mother don't have to stay together if they don't love each other, as that will just damage the kid in future relationships. As long as the child can have a normal relationship with their parents then that is what is important. I have absolutely no respect for people who have a baby and don't commit to it.
At the very least he needs to be putting in his part financially. Nothing is worse than a deadbeat parent. It would be nice if he had some kind of meaningful relationship with the child, but at the very least he should be giving the mom some money to help w/ expenses, not to mention the baby is probably not helping her situation with work. If he doesn't pay, take him to court and file a petition for support b/c that money is for HIS child, NOT for you to take to the mall, which is probably what he's thinking with his pebble brain.
Honestly I am a mom raising my daughter alone at my own home. Her father is homeless and well lets just leave it as a loser.
However I did expect that living costs be covered such as food, diapers, wipes ect half or more of formula or containers if you breastfeed.. clothing should be split along with linens.
if your electricity goes up he should pay the difference.. Any baby items that are bought should be bought together and agreed upon. He should have to help you with child care cost or pay the whole thing since he makes much more than you do. and then anything like life insurance and insurance in general he should pay in full for you. Any type of medical he should be responsible for.
I also vote you set up a savings account for the child so that when you get extra money you save for their college education or a car or whatever you see fit for the child to use the money on.
My daughter is 8 months old now and i have already saved 3,000 dollars for her. :)
im in the same situation almost im 31 weeks preg been with the dude 3 1/2 years and now he decided its not working but is willing to be there for the child i mean hes does support the pregnancy i guess
well hopefully he will be there for the child as far as expectation u should sit down with him and make a plan how things are going to work dont want the child to be here and u guys have no directions
I would expect child support. If we were still in a relationship, I would expect regular contact and physical help with the baby.
get child support ordered thru the courts.
never make your own arrangements with the father.
this would not be enforceable,thru the courts is.
support in every way.
Pick a better man?
Child support...yep..you play..you gotta pay...
well its not about whether your asking to much its about what a court appoints to you as far as how much c/s he would have to pay, u dont typically get to set your own amount unless agreed upon by both parties.. but more so you should expect him to be there for his child which is more important then the financial support.. he should be a constant in your childs life, have just as much say in your childs life, be there on the weekends etc whatever his visitation is.. be an active member in his life as far as schooling, religious activities, extra cirricular activities and to be the best parent he can be to your child .. so although financial support is important, its more important for him to be a good father, a child should have both parents in their life even if they are under two seperate roofs..mineral foundation
When I fell pregnant, me and my partner were not living together, I did tell him that when the baby was born he would be moving in. I didn't see why I should to left to care for a newborn by myself. Especially as we are both 1st time parents. For me personally having him move in was a little bit of a mistake, he was not working and was not contributing towards caring for the house or house hold bills. I think you should think very hard before making such a commitment. Living with your partner is a serious commitment, and having a baby is stress enough. In you case i think if he is earning such good money, he should be taking care of you completely, he can afford it!!What are your expectations from baby father if not married or living together?
The expectations don't change regardless of if you're married or not. Once you get pregnant, it is all about the baby. You need to commit to it and make sure your child has a proper upbringing. It is a real shame that so many people these days do a crappy job of this. The kid has no choice in the matter, and you can't take it out on him. Even if it was an accident, you need to change your priorities and make it all about the kid. The father and mother don't have to stay together if they don't love each other, as that will just damage the kid in future relationships. As long as the child can have a normal relationship with their parents then that is what is important. I have absolutely no respect for people who have a baby and don't commit to it.
At the very least he needs to be putting in his part financially. Nothing is worse than a deadbeat parent. It would be nice if he had some kind of meaningful relationship with the child, but at the very least he should be giving the mom some money to help w/ expenses, not to mention the baby is probably not helping her situation with work. If he doesn't pay, take him to court and file a petition for support b/c that money is for HIS child, NOT for you to take to the mall, which is probably what he's thinking with his pebble brain.
Honestly I am a mom raising my daughter alone at my own home. Her father is homeless and well lets just leave it as a loser.
However I did expect that living costs be covered such as food, diapers, wipes ect half or more of formula or containers if you breastfeed.. clothing should be split along with linens.
if your electricity goes up he should pay the difference.. Any baby items that are bought should be bought together and agreed upon. He should have to help you with child care cost or pay the whole thing since he makes much more than you do. and then anything like life insurance and insurance in general he should pay in full for you. Any type of medical he should be responsible for.
I also vote you set up a savings account for the child so that when you get extra money you save for their college education or a car or whatever you see fit for the child to use the money on.
My daughter is 8 months old now and i have already saved 3,000 dollars for her. :)
im in the same situation almost im 31 weeks preg been with the dude 3 1/2 years and now he decided its not working but is willing to be there for the child i mean hes does support the pregnancy i guess
well hopefully he will be there for the child as far as expectation u should sit down with him and make a plan how things are going to work dont want the child to be here and u guys have no directions
I would expect child support. If we were still in a relationship, I would expect regular contact and physical help with the baby.
get child support ordered thru the courts.
never make your own arrangements with the father.
this would not be enforceable,thru the courts is.
support in every way.
Pick a better man?
Child support...yep..you play..you gotta pay...
well its not about whether your asking to much its about what a court appoints to you as far as how much c/s he would have to pay, u dont typically get to set your own amount unless agreed upon by both parties.. but more so you should expect him to be there for his child which is more important then the financial support.. he should be a constant in your childs life, have just as much say in your childs life, be there on the weekends etc whatever his visitation is.. be an active member in his life as far as schooling, religious activities, extra cirricular activities and to be the best parent he can be to your child .. so although financial support is important, its more important for him to be a good father, a child should have both parents in their life even if they are under two seperate roofs..
Married?!?!?!?
i have known this guy through my cousin since i've been in 9th grade. my cousin and i have been close for a long time and run into eacother thru mutual friends or party together whenever we call eachother (which is actually like once a month or atleast every other month) but his friend has liked me since the 9th grade!! i was like 15 then, and i am 19 now.
i have not seen his friend in like a year b/c i moved away from my hometown for college, and b/c everytime i go back home he is in halfway house for selling drugs.
i have never kissed this boy, when he tried i said i dont want to kiss him in public (it was at the movies, during the movie) which was a lie, i just didnt know what to say
but yeah ive never done anything with him, never said i liked it him, but he talks about traveling together alot, and he makes it sound like we will get married one day. im only being a friend and he takes it to strange limits.
what should i do?Married?!?!?!?
Be up front and tell him you are not interested in a deeper relationship other than ';just friends';. You don't want a stalker on your hands and you are on the right path going off to collage while his future sounds like it is heading to jail. Perhaps your cousin might help you out by telling the guy too. Don't put yourself in a situation that you will be alone with this guy at anytime.
i have not seen his friend in like a year b/c i moved away from my hometown for college, and b/c everytime i go back home he is in halfway house for selling drugs.
i have never kissed this boy, when he tried i said i dont want to kiss him in public (it was at the movies, during the movie) which was a lie, i just didnt know what to say
but yeah ive never done anything with him, never said i liked it him, but he talks about traveling together alot, and he makes it sound like we will get married one day. im only being a friend and he takes it to strange limits.
what should i do?Married?!?!?!?
Be up front and tell him you are not interested in a deeper relationship other than ';just friends';. You don't want a stalker on your hands and you are on the right path going off to collage while his future sounds like it is heading to jail. Perhaps your cousin might help you out by telling the guy too. Don't put yourself in a situation that you will be alone with this guy at anytime.
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