My boyfriend wants to get married but I dont? How do you handle this kind of sitiution?

It's not like I don't want to get married to him, but to anyone. Ever.





Marriage is just not for me. I've known this since I was 13.





So if someone asks you to marry them, or they mention that they plan on getting married someday. What do you do? What are you supposed to say?My boyfriend wants to get married but I dont? How do you handle this kind of sitiution?
Just tell him that you don't need a piece of paper because that's essentially all it is. My hubby and I lived together for 10 years before we got married, and it wasn't something we'd ever planned on doing until we decided to adopt. Then it became a requirement. Honestly, the only thing that has changed is the fact that we paid for a sheet of paper with a pretty gold seal on it lol.





Explain to him that it's not important to you, but he is and getting married changes nothing between two people who really care about eachother.My boyfriend wants to get married but I dont? How do you handle this kind of sitiution?
Be Honest, Up front and explore the reasons why you feel the way you do about marriage? What does marriage mean to you both?





I never, ever wanted to get married because I was a witness to many marriage break ups in my formative years. So I had a very negative interpretation of relationships, fullstop! Marriages equated to fighting, cheating, stealing, deceipt, power struggles and manipulation.(Any one keen on living a life full of this?)





But it doesn't have to be this way!





I now believe; If you think it, ultimately you will create it! Both good and bad. So if you enter a relationship with this sort of outlook, you may very well create a very unsavoury life for yourself and others around you.





If you live a life of love, others will love you and your outlook may change? Or then again it may not?





Explore the possibilities before a physical relationship ensues is probably the safest and least painfull option!
Be honest and accept his decision if he does not want to stay, differences like this often break relationships, but not always. It is not your fault or his; you just want different things. But you need to discuss it together. Its your choice to not get married, but it is also his choice to get married. Nobody is wrong in this situation; everybody is different. I know you get a lot of different answers, like if he loves you he will stay, but that is not necessarly true and if he does not stay it DOES NOT mean he did not love you and it DOES not mean all the good times you had does not count. People change and want different things as they grow; he might love you, but feel that staying with your he would miss out on a family and marrage and you can't deny him. But the best person to tell your what the story is would be him. If he says he does not want to stay; maybe you could still be friends and you could still love one another, but not the same kind of love. Honesty and communication is important in a relationship. You might both have to decide how you want to work our your differences. But I don't believe in that whole if you love me you will stay rubish, because love is not always enough and you could love somebody as a friend but decide not to be romatic. He could still be a huge part of you life without you being romantic, if you do decide to end it. That's why the work breakup and wasting time with a person is often misunderstood. Yes if he stays with you it would make him unavailable to meet somebody he could marry, but he was probably very happy with you earlier. And if he is not with you anymore the only part that has to end is the romance; you could still be there for one another. I was with somebody who did not want to get married and when he admitted that, we decided to still be friends, but that does not mean we broke up, just had a different kind of relationship. Now I am with somebody who plans to marry me next year. And I learned from that to discuss it in the begining and be honest.
How you say it to him depends on who your boyfriend is - You know him and how he will react better to what you said better than any of us.





I was on the receiving end of the ';don't want to ever get married'; talk, and whilst it may be a little unsettling, it isn't too bad.


Make it clear to him that you don't ever intend on marrying, because, in your own words, Marriage just isn't for you.


If that's truly what you believe, and your boyfriend is good enough he should understand enough.


Just be honest with him.
The worst thing you can do is lie or try to leave hope in his mind when there shouldn't be any. So, just be honest and tell him this before he asks you. After all, if you wait and say ';no'; when he asks you, it's going to hurt his feelings way more than if you tell him ahead of time. As for what to say, just be honest but diplomatic. Maybe something along these lines: ';Listen we need to talk. The whole reason I'm telling you this now is because I care about you and our relationship. I'm don't believe in marriage and don't ever want to do it. Here's why (insert your reasons here and make sure he knows it's not just him).';





I hope this helps!
Tell him why you don't want to get married. I've been able to persuade most people I've known that marriage is a stupid ritual, either that or they've just stuttered and walked off :/.


Tell him that if he really loved you he wouldn't need a contract or a title to be able to stay with you his entire life and that you find marriage a depressing concept in general.


Or w.e.


XD.


I'd also say that if you did believe in marriage you'd be obliged, and are flattered by the offer but don't want to let go of your principles because, 'it's what people do'.


EMZ=]
You need to make it very clear to him that you will never, ever marry him. If that is what this guy is looking for in life, you need to make it clear to him that he needs to break up with you and look elsewhere.





Its important you are clear with him about this, even if you hurt his feelings.





If you care about him, you will not want him wasting time with you, if you can't give him what he needs.
Well, I think you should tell him. may be he really wants to get married it would not be fair for him to give up what he wants just cause you have a different opinion of marriage. Of course it will be hard if its a boyfriend of a long time and you love him but maybe there is someone out there in the world that shares your same perspective on marriage..


Hope this helped


good luck
oh god one time this girl in frunt of all my friends said when we get married will you do this for me andi just frozzz DAMN!!! i know how you feel i was stuttering and everything idk i was like changing the subject and everything tell him you want to be with him for atleast 5 years first lol worked for me i just wish i thought of it then before i got yelled at in frunt of my friends =P
Tell him you love him very much... or like him very much (whatever fits your situation) but that you are not looking for someone to marry. Tell him that it is not anything against him but that you have just chosen to be independent and remain unmarried for life. I know it's easier said than done, but you really must tell him. Good luck!!
The truth. Tell him you love him, you want to be with him, but marriage is not something you are interested in. He may be the traditional type and feel the right thing for him is to have a wife and family,, and if that is the case, I would imagine the relationship is not destined to last.
tell him, you love him, but your not ready to get married, and not sure if you ever will be ... and that it doesn't mean you love him any less ...





keep in mind ...


what you THINK you want at 13, or 15, or 17 is wayyyyyyyyyy different then what you want at 25, 30, or 35 ...





so don't close yourself off to somehting you are (probably) to young to even understand ...
Its hard, but its not what you want. So you have to make it quite clear. He may not want to stay with you if your going to end up not ever getting married. If you don't communicate; then he'll never know %26amp; you may be pressured into doing something you don't want.
If you dont want to get married, then theres really no point in dating him. Wouldnt you feel bad that the relationship youre in is going to go nowhere, and you know it but he doesnt? I think if you realy love him, youll marry him someday. If not... I dunno...
if you are old enough and ready, and truly love him, and your parents allow it or anyone else that is close to you thinks its a good idea, then if you really only want to you can, because you will know when the time is right
Make that clear to any guy you start a relationship with right in the beginning. I am sure you will find a lot of 1 night standers if you do so.





As for in this case. just tell him the truth without sugar coating your words.
well if your boyfriend is so in love with you then he will understand that you want to stay boyfriend/ girlfriend, but you are not ready to make a serious commitment in your life. He should undersatnd
tell him what you just said. you have no intentions of ever getting married. if you have reasons, state them. if not, say nothing. that way he can choose to move on if need be.
Why would you get into a relationship then?


Don't mess around with people if you don't wanna pay the consequences


MARRIAGE IS THE PUNISHMENT FOR SHOPLIFTING IN SOME COUNTRY'S!
umm reference DR cox and jordan from scrubs and say no i want to be like them you know not married EVER but still so exclusive it might as well be marriage
be honest with him because he might understand you or he might not just be honest and say you know right not marriage isnt for me
just be honest with them and tell them your not comfortable with it. my uncle is 40 and doesnt plan on getting married anytime soon..
If he loves you enough to marry you, he should love you enough to be ok with NOT marrying you.
Oh, that's tough. Try explaining to him. I'm sure he'll understand. Honesty's always best.
just explain to him that you love him but don't think you need marriage to show that.
try to explain it to him. but really that should be one of the first things you mention when you meet someone.
You don't have to marry anyone ,anytime soon. Say that.


GOD BLESS
I use to say the same thing until the right man came along.


Be honest with him.
Tell him to **** off
it doesnt matter whos wrong or right just beat it
Tell Him you are not ready yet , And if he doesn't understand that , He isn't the right one anyway.